My son saw the difference between a 'watchful parent' and an 'interfering parent'

Where does a child's
ability to think grow?

When my son reached his teenage years and was in high school,
he suddenly said something like this.

“I sometimes think that other moms
interfere a bit too much.
That might be the reason why
their grades don't improve...”

When I heard those words,
I couldn't help but laugh.

I never imagined that my own child
was calmly observing the differences in how parents interact with their children.

It seems my son felt that
“if you are interfered with too much, your ability to think for yourself doesn't grow.”

Parents often tend to
“because I don't want them to have trouble”
or “because I want them to do things properly”
and end up stepping in and speaking up ahead of time.

But that
can sometimes end up depriving the child of the opportunity to think.

Thinking for oneself.
Adjusting while making mistakes.
Choosing while struggling.

I believe that those small, accumulated experiences
become the strength to live.


It's not that I didn't say anything about his studies,
but I wanted to leave at least some
“room to think”
within my son.


Now, my son looks back on that time and says,
“When I think for myself and decide for myself, I can be satisfied with the result.”
When I heard those words,


I felt that the courage to watch over him had truly reached him.

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