You Are More Likely to Be Popular If You Don't Try to Be!
Popular men think about 'topics to enjoy together,' while unpopular men think about 'topics that might get a laugh.'
You are more likely to be popular if you don't try to be!
Why? Why does not trying to be popular actually lead to being popular?
For example, imagine there is a woman in front of you who is looking for a marriage partner.
Let's say you met at a matchmaking party or a group date.
That woman takes great care of her appearance and could be considered your type.
After talking for a while, it seems like you get along well in terms of conversation tempo and topics.
However, for some reason, you don't feel like appealing to her.
Why is that? Thinking about it, as you talk for a while, her vibe and the nuances of her conversation clearly show that she is desperate to get married right away.
You also want to get married, but you don't feel the same 'right now! right this second!' urgency that she does.
Therefore, no matter how wonderful she is or how much she is your type, you cannot imagine wanting to date her.
If you strongly want to be popular, there is a possibility that you are giving off the same 'I want to be popular' aura as that woman.
Before that, if you cannot genuinely enjoy the time with the woman in front of you, it defeats the whole purpose.
In a state where you are only thinking about the result—whether or not you can date that woman—you are highly likely to fail not only at getting that result but even at the process itself.
Who would want to meet someone again if they didn't find them fun to be with? Sacrificing the process for the sake of a result is completely meaningless.
Even if you sacrifice the process and reach the desired result, it won't last long, will it?
Because you want to be popular so badly, you might end up developing your conversation like a routine.
If you only talk with the ulterior motive of 'this topic might get a laugh,' neither you nor the other person will have fun.
You might think, 'That doesn't apply to me,' but this is a trap that everyone tends to fall into.
Popular men look for topics by thinking as follows:
'What topic should I bring up so that both the woman in front of me and I can truly enjoy ourselves?' Women feel love in the words that come from this state of mind.
Even if it is a seemingly common line like, 'That accessory on your wrist is lovely,' the tone and rhythm of your voice will be completely different.
If you say it with an ulterior motive, the words lack sincerity, but if you say it because you truly think it is lovely, the other person will be able to say thank you from the heart.
I think it is a waste to sacrifice the process while only chasing the result of being popular, instead of both you and the other person genuinely enjoying yourselves.
Please try to genuinely enjoy the time you spend talking with the women you meet from now on.
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