The Psychology of 'Praising' Parents Should Know✨
🎓 LBS Project 27
Is 'You're smart!' actually counterproductive?
Today, I will share with you how to praise children so they truly grow, as taught by research from Columbia University!
Praising children is very important.
But what if the way you praise them could change their future?
In fact, in 1998, psychologists Dr. Carol S. Dweck and Dr. Claudia Mueller at Columbia University in the United States conducted research on the impact of 'praising' on children's motivation to learn.
'You're smart' vs. 'You worked hard'
In the study, they conducted an experiment with fifth-grade elementary school students.
After the children solved problems, one group was praised for their ability:
'You're smart!'
The other group was praised for their effort:
'You worked hard!'
Then, there was a surprising difference...
Next, the children chose whether to take on:* Easy problems
* Difficult problems
And then...
Children who were praised for their effort were more likely to choose to take on difficult problems.
On the other hand,
children who were praised for their ability had a stronger desire to 'not fail' and tended to choose easy problems.
Furthermore, when they experienced failure,
the group praised for their ability showed a tendency to:
* Give up easily
* Stop enjoying the task
* See their grades drop
Conversely,
children whose efforts were acknowledged were confirmed to:
* Persist in their challenges
* Enjoy learning
* Feel motivated to try hard next time
For example, if they get a 100 on a test...
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Instead of 'You're smart!'
⭕ 'You worked hard at this every day.'
⭕ 'You didn't give up until the end.'
⭕ 'This is the result of you studying in a clever way.'
By using words that acknowledge effort, ingenuity, and the process rather than the result,
'Let's try again'it seems easier to foster that kind of mindset in children.
They don't grow because they are 'amazing kids'.
They grow because they are 'kids who can keep trying'.
Do you know this quote??😎
'I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.'
This is a quote byAlbert Einstein.Talent alone does not determine the future.
Daily encouragement that fosters the 'power to continue' will greatly change a child's future.
Thank you for reading until the end😊
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