The Moment When 'Common Sense' Breaks Down

When we are thrown into a situation
where our own common sense does not apply, we feel more than a little bewildered.

How to greet others,
the tempo of conversation,

or even how to express opinions and the meaning of silence,
there are times when what you did naturally is not understood at all.

Now that diversity is welcomed,

in a place where 'being different' is the premise,

there are moments when you feel anxious about whether you can adapt.

The true nature of anxiety

When your own 'common sense' does not apply, you feel as if your very personality has been denied.

However, that is a misunderstanding.

You are not being denied,
there is simply 'another culture' there.

The other person may also be letting go of their own 'common sense'
while facing you.

To avoid being overwhelmed by 'differences'

First, let's try giving a name to your own values.

For example,

'I value taking responsibility for my words',
'It was common sense to read the room',
'I felt that silence was a form of denial', and so on.

By putting your 'assumptions' into words like this,
you can realize that they were not 'absolute'.

The solution is 'gentle observation'

It is okay not to try to fit in immediately.
Let's observe first.

In this place,

how do they express their intentions?
How is silence perceived?

A 'sense of discomfort' is actually an opportunity for learning.

And you can update your style
little by little.

The secret to not losing yourself

Ultimately, what is important is
the balance between 'changing' and 'not compromising'.

While being open to differences, continue to carefully confirm your own core values.

That is the first step toward not losing yourself amidst diversity.