[Trust] Sexual harassment, me, and you.

My name is Uba.
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Dirty jokes are maintained by the relationship between two people. If you make a dirty joke without having built a significant relationship, it becomes sexual harassment.

If I were to ask a female colleague,"By the way, what cup size are you?"I would not only lose her trust, but I would also lose my job.

This is the result of the fact that there was no relationship between her and me that allowed for the exchange of dirty jokes.

Then.

What if I asked my wife,"By the way, what cup size are you?"
what would happen?

In that case, she would say, "Huh? Are you looking for a fight?" and I would lose my wife's trust and my job as a husband. Even between a married couple, dirty jokes should be handled with caution.

Note) First of all,"By the way, what cup size are you?"please let us leave aside for now whether this is a dirty joke or not.
It is possible that this is just a terrible question, regardless of whether it is a dirty joke or not. Unless you have a very close relationship, you should avoid asking this question.

By the way.

Regarding the case where I am asked,"By the way, what cup size are you?"I am broad-minded, so I would not take it as sexual harassment.

Instead, I would say, "I don't know what my cup size is, so would you mind measuring it for me?" And this statement would surely be sexual harassment.

Everything requires an appropriate sense of distance.

There are middle-aged men who complain, "These days, just asking 'Did you get a haircut?' gets you called a sexual harasser! You can't even communicate anymore!"

It's not that they dislike being asked if they got a haircut; they just dislike being asked by you.Let's build a relationship where you can ask if they got a haircut.

The other day, when I told my wife, "Oh? You got a haircut, didn't you? It looks good on you," she replied, "I didn't cut it, though?"

Before building a relationship with someone, you also need an eye for noticing changes. Don't overlook even the smallest changes. That mindset is important.

Come to think of it, my daughter has recently been shouting, "Poop! Penis! Poop! So dirty!" It's a very cute bit of crude humor.

It seems there are cute types of crude humor and types that aren't so cute.

Well, I don't know for sure, though.

What is this?

#What are you talking about?

Thank you for reading this far.
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Well then, this was Uba from a corner of Sasebo.