About Motivation | How to Create a Motivator That Suits You

The second installment of the muscle training series!

And posting twice a day💪✨

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Today was a tough day at work, and I was up at 3 AM, but because I had to travel far,
I was able to get some work done during the commute🚃

I made good progress on my work during the travel time🚃

Well then.
This morning I talked about persistence, the power to keep going.

This time, it's about the topic of motivation

Here is a question🎩

“Which one makes you happier?”

✅
“Your arms have gotten bigger!”
from someone close to you who has been watching your hard work.
✅ “Huh, have your arms gotten bigger?” from someone you haven't seen in a while.

(It might be hard to visualize since it's about arm size, haha)

This question is felt differently by different people.

To boost your own motivation,
how should you interact with others?
I will explain this by incorporating psychology💪

What is a motivator?

A motivator is, simply put,

someone who boosts the motivation of those around them.

In the previous article,
I touched on motivation itself.

In other words,

muscle training itself can be a motivator to keep doing muscle training.

That is what it means.

This time, let's limit it to people.

For you,
who is your motivator?

And, what kind of person are they?

Two Types of Need for Approval

What kind of person you want as a motivator

is strongly related to what your need for approval depends on.

What are you looking for?

What are you seeking?

This time, we will divide it into the following two types.

a) I want the process of my efforts to be evaluated!

b) I want my results to be evaluated relatively!

For example, when a boss who never looks at your daily hard work says,

"I hear you've been working hard lately,"

don't you ever feel, "You don't even look at me on a regular basis."
?

This is not being cynical at all; it is a natural reaction psychologically as well.

The opposite is also true; when you are scolded by such a boss,

"You only focus on my bad points, don't you?"

is what you end up thinking.

In other words,
a foundation of approval
is a necessary prerequisite.

If there is a relationship of trust where you feel, "This person knows my usual hard work and struggles,"

then

if you are praised, you will be very happy, and

even if you are scolded, you can have the mindset of,

"I'll do my best next time too."💡

This is the concept of the (a) motivator.

Next.

Relative evaluation is an easy-to-understand method for knowing your own position.

"I came in first in my grade on the final exam🥇"
"I beat my rival colleague in sales performance"

How you compared to someone else,

and if that person is a meaningful target,

the reaction will be greater.

In other words,
if an evaluator can perform a relative evaluation between you and that meaningful target, then that evaluator can become a motivator.

A club advisor where competition for a starting spot occurs
The person you like in a club

are easy-to-understand examples.

Let's return to the story at the beginning.

Evaluation from someone you met after a long time

If this person could potentially be a motivator,

it means you were able to find value in
a relative evaluation with your past self.

You have friends you meet about once a year, right?

Physical changes from strength training are

easier to notice when there is a gap in time, so
(it's hard to see changes when you look in the mirror every day, right?)

they make for a perfect motivator in strength training.

"Hey, have you gotten bigger?"

This one sentence can keep me going for a while lol😆

This is type (b).

Changing Motivator Orientations

There are two types, (a) and (b), and
I have been writing as if

everyone falls into one or the other,

but in reality,

your motivator orientation
changes depending on the situation.

Taking strength training as an example (again lol)

from a senior trainee who works out at the same time
during your daily morning gym routine,

"It's impressive that you come every day; it encourages me too."

When you are told this,

"Alright, I'll do my best to wake up tomorrow too!"

you think, right?

In this moment,
the senior trainee

became a motivator for continuing strength training.

On the other hand,
even if a relationship of trust hasn't been built,

another senior trainee you see every morning

the weight of the dumbbells they are using that suddenly catches your eye

“Is the weight gap closing?”

You might find yourself
making relative comparisons between yourself and senior trainees or your past self,
and

“Maybe I should increase the intensity...”

feeling motivated as a result.

Even someone you have never communicated with
can become a motivator
in your pursuit of lifting heavier weights.

In other words,
a motivator orientationis not consistent,

and it changes its form flexibly depending on the situation.

What kind of motivator do you need right now?

Furthermore,

what kind of motivation are you lacking?

If that is not clear,

all you have to do is work backward and identify someone from your circle who specializes in that.

You can't create motivation on your own

...⬆️In reality, that's not true, but

after all,motivation arises within human relationships.

It is precisely because you communicate with others
(sharing time, not just dialogue, is also a form of meaningful communication)

that motivator theory comes into play,

leading to individual motivation.

If you change your perspective,

it means you also hold the potential
to be someone else's motivator.

You might already be one✨

And above all,

Things I felt when I started note.

This is a gathering place for motivators!🍖🦖
That is what it is.

Tailored to each person's motivator orientation,

various forms of communication are taking place.

When I think that this leads to each person's

"I'll do my best again!"

it is deeply moving, isn't it? lol 😆

I, Mocchan-sensei, also

hope to become someone's motivator someday,
no, I will work hard on my note activities so that I can become one!

The End.

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I should have saved this for tomorrow...

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