People who hurt themselves in advance.
I don't want to get hurt, I don't want to be made a fool of, and I don't want people to think I've failed. Because it hurts. So, to neutralize that pain, people attack and hurt themselves beforehand.
It is a preemptive act of self-harm.
For example, suppose you are suddenly asked to give a greeting at a drinking party with a client. "How about you, Assistant Manager Ito! A few words, please!" "Uh, ah, well, um, well, ",{I wasn't prepared for this since you asked me so suddenly, but...". This is a preemptive act of self-harm.
It exists everywhere in daily life.
Suppose there is a woman who has been betrayed by men in the past, and she says to someone she might get a little close to: "I'm the type of person who ",{takes time to trust people".
You've never created any kind of artwork, but you want to. However, since you've never created anything, you're anxious about how others will evaluate it. "Well, ",{I think it's a bit mediocre, but...".
I can understand the feeling of hurting yourself in advance. It's self-defense. This defensive measure is a little different from one intended to keep others from getting hurt. It is a measure to ensure that you don't get hurt, and in a sense, it is an ego.
It goes without saying, but people who tend to engage in preemptive self-harm generally lack confidence. It is the flip side of that lack of confidence.
Furthermore, they do not realize that this act of self-harm is meaningless to others.
Yes, preemptive self-harm is a self-contained act to keep oneself from getting hurt, and from the perspective of others, it is completely meaningless, or rather, an annoying act.
Whether it's saying "I wasn't prepared for this" when suddenly asked to speak, saying "it takes time to trust" to a good person, or saying "I think it's a bit mediocre" regarding creative work you're afraid to have evaluated, it has absolutely nothing to do with others. They aren't interested. It's meaningless.
That defensive instinct of self-preservation should be ",{
directed toward others instead.
There is absolutely no need to hurt yourself in advance.
<Afterword>
Breakfast tastes good on my days off. Sausages, salted salmon roe, a fried egg, miso soup, and white rice. Is there anything more delicious than this? It's so delicious that I wonder that. Since I wrote that you shouldn't use self-defense, this afterword is like a form of self-defense, so it's contradictory, but this kind of thing isn't necessary either. Thank you for today as well.
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