📚267: Relationships Transformed! How to Compliment Men and Women to Touch Their Hearts
🟠 Prologue 🟠
- Introduction -
Hello, I'm Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
I have condensed the things that left an impression on me and the insights I learned
into tips for living!I hope they are useful for your daily life too♪
This time,
it's about the prerequisites for changing relationships and how to give compliments!
* Please also check out this article regarding the reasons I continue to read and what I learn (^^)!!
🟩 Reading Details 🟩
🟥 Lesson ① 🟥
- Being rejected is a basic premise -
When it comes to inviting someone,
being rejected is unavoidable.
There are times when they have absolutely no interest
or won't listen to you at all.
It is important to operate under the premise that
this is only natural.
You make an effort to get them to listen,
but sometimes effort isn't enough.
Accept that being rejected is inevitable and move forward.
🟦 Lesson ② 🟦
- Play the fool a little -
Humans are creatures that want to be
slightly above others.
Therefore,
adopting the following attitudes
is out of the question.
・I have time, so I'll help you
・You're free anyway, right? Help me
Because of this,
playing the fool a little
is the secret to communication.
People have a desire to be useful and to help someone.
They feel joy in teaching or giving something
within their own capabilities.
At that time,
clearly express what you want to do.
People who don't know what they want are hard to engage with,
but if what you want to do is clear,
it becomes easier for others to reach out.
🟨 Lesson ③ 🟨
- How to compliment by gender -
When talking to someone for the first time,
the thing you should keep in mind is to compliment the other person.
However,it's not that you should
compliment everything and anything.
You need to properly grasp the key points.
[For women]
Compliment their beauty
Compliment things that the person has put effort or time into,
or things that make the other person happy to be complimented on.
The areas where women put in effort
are the areas where they lack confidence.
Complimenting those areas
is more effective
than complimenting areas where they are confident.
[For men]
Compliment their knowledge or abilities
Rather than being complimented on things visible on the surface,
they are happier being complimented on their knowledge or abilities.
Steer the conversation
toward expressing gratitude
for something they taught you.
🟣 Epilogue 🟣
- Summary of this session -
Through today's reading,
I learned about the prerequisites for changing human relationships and how to praise others!
Do you feel shocked
when you invite someone and get rejected?
When it comes to invitations, being rejected is a given.
Sometimes, they might not be interested at all.
It is important to accept that rejection is inevitable
and have the mindset to move on to the next thing.
Also, in communication,
the trick is to be a little bit foolish.
People want to be useful to others, so
by clarifying what you want to do,
it becomes easier for the other person to reach out and help you 🗣️
And, there are gender differences
in how to praise that can drastically change human relationships.
When praising women,
it is effective to praise their beauty,
especially the effort and time they put into it.
When praising men, they are happier
when you praise their knowledge or abilities.
Let's steer the conversation toward expressing gratitude
for something they taught you.
Praising in a way that resonates with the other person's heart
is the key to drastically improving human relationships 🔑
If you are thinking,
"I want to improve my relationships, but I don't know what to do..."
or "I want to be loved more by people!"
why not incorporate these prerequisites and ways of praising?
Next Episode Preview
Next time,
we will talk about the richness of the heart
gained through invitations!
Highlights so far
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