📚167: A Must-Read for People in Their 20s and 30s! How to Gain an Overwhelming Advantage in Conversation - Reading '90% of Success is How You Speak' (2) -
Prologue
- Introduction -
Hello, this is Tochamin.
I usually spend about 30 minutes a day reading.
I have condensed the things that left an impression on me and the insights I learned
into tips for living! I hope they are useful for your daily life too♪
This time,
it's about how to gain an overwhelming advantage in conversation!
* Please also check out this article for the reasons why I continue to read and what I learn (^^)!!
Chapter.1
- Reading Details -
Chapter.2
- The Slight Difference in How You Speak -
If you can talk well with people,
your daily life will become even richer.
Why do people gather around that person?
Have you ever felt that way about someone?
That person just has a slight difference in that they
know what is important when communicating with others.
So what do they know?
It is the following.
✅️ Everyone is the most important person to themselves, and they are creatures most interested in themselves.
✅️ Everyone wants to be acknowledged and desperately wants to be understood.
✅️ People like those who understand them.
In other words, make the subject the person the other party is most interested in:
"the other person themselves."
By doing so, the other person's emotions will naturally rise, and the simple psychology of "liking the person who makes you the protagonist" will work!
Chapter.3
- Polishing How You Listen -
The most important thing in how you speak is
listening. It is important not just to become better at talking, but to master how to listen and first
increase the other person's sense of self-importance.
On top of that, a speaking technique that successful people naturally use is called
"Expansion Talk." In short, it is about putting the other person in a state where they expand on their own stories.
Expansion Talk has
Admiration → Repetition → Empathy → Praise → Question
as an order.
By using this technique, the desire to be understood is satisfied, and the other person will feel good and be able to talk a lot.
This kind of impression leads to "I want to meet you again"!!
Epilogue
- Summary of this time -
Through my reading today,
I learned how to make an overwhelming difference in conversation!
Isn't there someone around you who,
for some reason, always attracts people?
That person simply knows
a few important little thingswhen it comes to communication.
That slight difference really changes human relationships!
That important thing is the fundamental premise that
people care about themselves the most and
are most interested in themselves.
Therefore, by making the other person the protagonist and listening to them,
the psychology of 'This person understands me!'
kicks in, and you naturally become liked.
And actually, the most important thing in how you talk is
in fact,'listening'.It's not just about becoming a better speaker,
but it's important to first boost the other person's sense of self-importance.
By using a technique called 'Expansion Conversation Method',
the other person's desire to 'be understood' is satisfied,
and that leads to them wanting to see you again.
Doesn't that make conversation sound like it's going to be fun?✨
If you are someone who thinks,
'I'm struggling because I'm bad at conversation...'
or 'I want to be liked more by people!',
why not try this listening style and the Expansion Conversation Method?
Next Episode Preview
Next time,
I'll be talking about how to give compliments that resonate with the other person's heart!
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