📚245: The Secret to Deepening Emotions Used by Trusted People: The Art of Reflective Responding
🟠 Prologue 🟠
- Introduction -
Hello, I'm Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
I have summarized the things that left an impression on me and the insights I gained
into tips for living!I hope they are useful in your daily life too♪
This time,
it's about the secret to deepening emotions
that trusted people value!
※ Please also check out this article for reasons to keep reading and what to learn (^^)!!
🟩 Chapter.1 🟩
- Reading Details -
🟥 Chapter.2 🟥
- Looking at the Other Person's Mouth -
In communication,
it is often said to "look the other person in the eye,"
but staring into someone's eyes while talking
can sometimes give an intimidating impression.
For that reason, some people look at the chest area or the knot of a tie.
The most natural and effective way is
to look at the other person's mouth.
Even when taking a photo,
a gaze directed about 5 degrees downward from a horizontal position
makes the eyes look gentle.
By being conscious of this angle when listening to someone talk,
you can give the other person a gentle impression.
Looking at the other person's mouth has the following benefits.
✅️ Your expression becomes calm and gentle,
and your eyes appear kind from the other person's perspective
✅️ You are not perceived as avoiding eye contact
✅️ You can observe subtle changes in the other person's expression
🟦 Chapter.3 🟦
- Responding to Negative Words
with Positive Words -
In counseling methods,
there is a method of repetition (confirmation) called the "Reflective Responding Method."
Example)
・"It was painful..."
→ "It was painful, wasn't it?"
・"It was so much fun"
→ "It was fun, wasn't it?"
Because this picks up and reflects the other person's emotions,
the other person feels that their feelings have been understood.
The important thing at that time is
when you reflect a negative word,
you should also pick up and reflect a positive word.
Just reflecting negative emotions as they are
can sometimes make the other person feel even more depressed.
By reflecting positive words,
a positive impression
is more likely to remain for the other person.
△ "The failure was tough back then, wasn't it?"
→ The impression that only the negative part was picked up
remains.
△ "You've recovered now, but
the failure was tough back then, wasn't it?"
→ Even if you touch on the positive first,
the impression that the subsequent negative aspect was emphasized
remains.
⚪︎ "The failure was tough back then, but
you've recovered now, haven't you?"
→ Even if you touch on the negative,
the positive impression that you understood the effort made afterward
remains.
🟣 Epilogue 🟣
- Summary of this time -
Through today's reading,
I learned the secret to deepening emotions
that trusted people value!
When you are in a conversation, do you stare into the other person's eyes
and end up giving an intimidating impression?
Actually, it seems the most natural and effective thing to do
is to look at the other person's mouth.
By doing this, your expression becomes calm and gentle,
and your eyes appear kinder.
Furthermore, if you can also observe
the subtle changes in the other person's expression,
it feels like you have discovered
a secret to communication, doesn't it?✨
And, a technique for empathy that resonates with the other person's heart
is to pick up and echo their emotions, such as saying
'It was tough, wasn't it?' in response to 'It was tough.'
By doing this, the other person feels
'I have been understood.'
At that time, when you echo back negative words,
make sure to also pick up and echo positive words.
By leaving an impression of yourself
with positive words rather than negative ones,
you can deepen your relationship of trust🎵
If you are thinking,
'I want to improve my relationships, but I don't know what to do...'
or 'I want to be more trusted by others!',
why not try being conscious of this echoing technique
and how you use your gaze?
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Next time,
we will discuss the secret to fulfilling yourself
and living a satisfying daily life!
Highlights So Far
[Summary 1]
[Summary 2]
[Summary 3]
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