📚223: Improve your reputation! 8 ways of listening that earn trust from everyone
🟠 Prologue 🟠
- Introduction -
Hello, this is Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
In doing so,I have summarized the things that touched my heart and the lessons I learned
as tips for living!
I hope they are useful in your daily life too♪
This time,
it is about the points you should value to be trusted!
※ Please also check out this article for the reasons why I continue reading and what I learn (^^)!!
🟩 Chapter.1 🟩
- Reading Details -
🟥 Chapter.2 🟥
- 8 ways of listening to be trusted by others (1-4) -
To be able to speak confidently
with anyone,
changing how you listenis the shortest path.
For that purpose,
keep the following points in mind.
✅️ Listen with empathy
To empathize, it is not enough to just accept what the other person says.
By putting what the other person said into words, such as "So you felt like..."
and repeating it,
the other person feels understood.
It is especially good to focus on the other person's feelings and requests.
✅️
Listen with interest
When people realize you are interested in what they are saying, they become comfortable talking and feel favorably toward the person who listened.
It is good to respond by matching the other person's tension,
incorporating their feelings,
like saying "That sounds exciting."
✅️
Listen with your whole body
When listening,
it is important to convey that you are listening seriously. By turning your body toward the other person or leaning forward, expressing your listening posture with your whole body, even if slightly exaggerated,
leads to a good impression.
✅️
Do not talk one-sidedly
Suppress the urge to talk yourself
and take a breath.
This is also important for the other person to understand what they are saying.
While being conscious of that, by asking the other person, "How about you?" you can have a mutually satisfying conversation.
🟦 Chapter.3 🟦
- 8 ways of listening to be trusted by others (5-8) -
Following the above,
keeping the following points in mind
leads to a relationship of trust with the other person.
✅️ Listen to the end
If you do not listen to the end
and interrupt in the middle,
it will be perceived as you wanting to finish this conversation quickly.
Have the consideration to listen to the end.
✅️
Use backchanneling correctly Make the other person feel comfortable talking
and use heartfelt backchanneling
that matches the content of the story,
such as "That's good for you."
Repeating monotonous backchanneling
like "Yeah, yeah"
gives the impression that you are not listening
and becomes a cause for the conversation to break off.
✅️
Try to understand the other person If you try to pursue the cause,
the other person will shrink away.
Instead,
with a stance of trying to understand the other person,
such as "What happened then?" or "What do you think?"
if you listen, the other person will be able to talk happily.
✅️
Do not be swayed by the other person's subjectivity If you take subjective stories at face value, you may misunderstand the facts
and it can also be a trigger for breaking human relationships.
After receiving the story,
it is important to develop the habit of separating subjectivity from facts,
such as by asking for the reason they think that way.
🟣 Epilogue 🟣
- Summary of this time -
Through reading on this day,
I learned the points that should be valued to be trusted!
Are you
worried, "How can I make my human relationships go well?"
To become a person trusted by everyone,
changing how you listenis the shortest path.
By not just listening to the story,
but putting what the other person said into words and repeating it,
the other person feels understood.
Also, showing a posture of listening with your whole body
conveys seriousness and leads to a good impression.
If you face the other person's feelings
and listen with interest,
the conversation seems like it will be more fulfilling👂✨
Furthermore, to deepen the relationship of trust,
consideration for the other personis important.
Not only listening to the end,
let's use heartfelt backchanneling.
Also, instead of pursuing the cause,
it is important to listen
with a stance of trying to understand the other person!
If you are thinking,
"I want to improve my human relationships but I don't know what to do..."
or "I want to be trusted more by people!"
why not check these 8 ways of listening
and practice the actions of a person trusted by everyone?
Next time preview
Next time, we will cover
the secrets to ensuring your thoughts are understood by anyone!
Highlights so far
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