📚221: No More Relationship Worries! 10 Traits That Push People Away
🟠 Prologue 🟠
- Introduction -
Hello, this is Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
In doing so,I have condensed the things that stayed in my heart and the insights I learned
into tips for living!
I hope they are useful for your daily life too♪
This time,
it is about word choice to improve relationships and
things to avoid!
* Please also take a look at this article regarding the reasons for continuing to read and what I learn (^^)!!
🟩 Chapter.1 🟩
- Reading Details -
🟥 Chapter.2 🟥
- Relationships Change with Words -
✅️ Well done
✅️ You worked hard
✅️ As expected of you
These may seem like
good messages at first glance,
but they express an attitude of evaluating the other person,
and your true feelings are not conveyed.
To convey your true feelings,
it is important to show an equal perspective
and empathy toward what the other person has done.
Example)
✅️ I am also very happy about your results, [Name]
✅️ It is very helpful that you did that for me, [Name]
In this way,by changing the words you use,you give vitality to the other person,
leading to confident actions.
With just one word,
you can turn a relationship around.
That is why
it is important to convey what you are thinkingand feeling
using words that reach the other person.
🟦 Chapter.3 🟦
- 10 Traits of People Who Struggle with Relationships -
The following are traits of people who struggle with relationships.
✅️ Negative thinking
Predicting only bad results
and approaching things that way.
Even when good things happen, they tend to perceive them negatively.
✅️ Comparing oneself to others
Aligning one's own evaluation criteria with others
and evaluating oneself based on superiority or inferiority to others.
✅️ Poor at listening to others
・Interrupting others
・Not listening until the end
・Unable to listen to opinions different from one's own
They do not understand what kind of impact
this attitude has on the other person.
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Trying to control people with anger Denying others outright
and trying to make them do as one wishes.
Even if things go as planned in the moment,
the relationship will not work out afterward.
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Highlighting one's own inferiority Saying things like "You're lucky, [Name],"
they flaunt their own inferiority
and make the other person feel uncomfortable.
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"But" and "However" are habitual phrases They do not trust themselves or others,
and it shows a feeling of not wanting to change.
They cannot accept the other person's words honestly.
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Unable to accept ideas different from one's own Judging based on the standard that one is right, using "should" statements.
They blame others when things do not go their way.
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Trying to get attention through problematic behavior
Their focus is on others. It ends up causing the other person great pain, and people drift away.
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Thinking of communication in terms of winning and losing
By judging in terms of winning and losing, they lose sight of the goal of solving problems through discussion. As long as they continue to engage in vertical communication,
it will not improve.
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Unable to admit mistakes
When mistakes are pointed out, they make excuses or act rudely. They perceive criticism as a denial and try to protect themselves by counterattacking.
🟣 Epilogue 🟣
- Summary of this time -
Through today's reading,
I learned about word choice to improve relationships
and things to avoid!
Are you worried about
not getting along well in your relationships?
Actually, relationships can change with just one word!
Instead of evaluative words like "As expected of you,"
show an equal perspective and empathy,
like saying "I am also very happy."
With just a one-word rephrasing,
you can turn a relationship around✨
And it seems there are 10 common traits
among people who struggle with relationships.
Having a habit of saying "but" or "because,"
or comparing yourself to others.
These attitudes
can cause people to distance themselves from you,
so be careful!
If you are thinking,
"I want to improve my relationships, but
I don't know where to start..."
"I want to live a richer life!"
If you feel that way,
why not practice these secrets
to turn your relationships around in your daily life?
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Next time,
we will discuss the traits of people
who are trusted and liked by everyone!
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