📚171: Improve Your Work and Life! Managing Words That Resonate with Others - Reading '90% of Success is How You Speak' (6) -
Prologue
- Introduction -
Hello, this is Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
I have condensed the things that left an impression on me and the insights I learned
into tips for living!I hope they are useful for your daily life too♪
This time,
it's about managing words
that can be applied to both work and life!
※ Please also check out this article for the reasons why I continue reading and what I learn (^^)!!
Chapter.1
- Reading Details -
Chapter.2
- Don't use 4D words -
✅️ But
✅️ Because
✅️ Anyway
✅️ No good
People who often use these 4D words are disliked.
Although there are times when you have to use them due to the flow of conversation,
if you repeat them too much, the entire conversation
becomes negative talk.
To avoid that,
"That's true. But what about
this?"
by saying,first affirm the other person.
By doing so, you can express your own opinion more gently.
Besides this, "because" and "anyway" are the same, and since they easily lead to giving up or making excuses,
do not use them frequently.
Habits of speech are "habits of personality."
It is important to be careful with your language on a daily basis so that you don't give a negative impression without realizing it!
Chapter.3
- How to use 'Good luck' -
"Good luck" is often used as a word to encourage people, but depending on how it is used,
it can sometimes be counterproductive instead of encouraging.There are times when a single "good luck" can inspire someone, but you need to be careful because it can also feel like values are being forced on them or like they are being cornered.
What is important is to use the words "good luck"
at the right timing and in the right way,
tailoring it to each case.
Example)
✅️ People who are trying too hard
→ "You're working hard.
Don't push yourself too hard."
⇒ Makes them feel recognized for their hard work
✅️ People who are not trying hard
→
"Mr./Ms. XX (someone around them), you've been working hard lately."
⇒ Speak in a way that makes them want to try hard
✅️ People who want to try hard and are trying hard
→
"Thanks to your hard work, the atmosphere is great."
⇒ Talk about the future beyond that
Daily observation skills are important
to focus on the other person's emotions
and use words appropriately!
Epilogue
- Summary of this time -
Through today's reading,
I learned about managing words
that can be applied to both work and life!
"But," "because," "anyway," and "no good"
—are you using words like these?
If you use these words too often, you might find yourself
being disliked without even realizing it💦
To avoid that,
it's important to first affirm the other person
before sharing your own opinion.Let's be mindful of our language in daily lifeso that we don't give off
a negative impression!
And then there's the word often used to encourage people,
"Do your best."Actually, it's said that if you use it the wrong way,
it can have the opposite effect.
Instead of just saying "do your best,"
it's important to focus on the other person's emotions
and choose your words carefully.
Don't you think this is a secret
that could be incredibly useful for your relationships too?✨
If you feel like
"I tend to fail with my words..."
or "I want to be more trusted by others!"
why not try being conscious of
and changing how you manage your words?
Next Episode Preview
Next time,
we'll discuss the importance of not jumping to conclusions with words,
but instead reading the other person's feelings!
Highlights So Far
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