📚256: Don't Spin Your Wheels in Conversation! Techniques for Responding That Create Comfort

🟠 Prologue 🟠
- Introduction -

Hello, I'm Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
I have condensed the things that stayed in my heart and the insights I learned
into tips for living!I hope they are useful in your daily life too♪

This time,
I learned about conversations that make the other person feel comfortable!
I learned!

* Please also check out this article for the reasons why I continue reading and what I learn (^^)!!

🟩 Reading Details 🟩

🟥 Learning ① 🟥
- How to change the topic -

When you are having small talk and
want to wrap up the current conversation
to get to the main point,
it is useful to start by saying
the purpose directly, as shown below.

Instead of obsessing over a natural flow
or trying to control the situation,
state it clearly.
If you do that,
what you need to do becomes much simpler.

🟦 Learning ② 🟦
- Narrow down keywords and respond -

If you think you must make small talk
and respond to every word the other person says,
it will cause you to spin your wheels.
Even if you jump on things like a knee-jerk reaction without composure,
the relationship will not deepen.

The important thing is
to be conscious of your goals and strategy
and narrow down keywords to respond.

In this way,
how the conversation expands changes
depending on which words you pick up.

Even if the conversation doesn't follow the keywords,
instead of responding to everything,
it is also important to listen while nodding.

If you are conscious of these things
and maintain a relaxed attitude,
that composure will be conveyed to the other person
and you can leave an impression of comfort.

🟨 Learning ③ 🟨
- How to create opportunities for small talk -

Have you ever thought about creating an opportunity for small talk
and invited someone by saying, "Let's go for a drink sometime"?

If you borrow the power of alcohol,
it is easy to feel like the conversation flowed and you became close,
but in reality, that is often not the case.
It is easy to forget what you were talking about,
and since the number of people who don't drink alcohol has increased recently,
it is hard to say it is appropriate.

For someone you want to get closer to,
inviting them for tea or lunch is effective.
It has the advantages of being easier to estimate the time
and being reasonable.

Also, if you have a common hobby,
it is good to invite them to it.
By spending time together immersed in it,
you can also build a close relationship.

🟣 Epilogue 🟣
- Summary of this session -

Through today's reading,
I learned about conversations that make the other person feel comfortable!

Are you struggling to end small talk
because you are too focused on making it flow naturally?

When you want to change the subject,
saying "Changing the subject, but..."
and stating your purpose directly
is simple and effective.
Also, to avoid spinning your wheels in conversation,
it is important not to react to every single word the other person says,
but to focus your reactions on key words.
If you maintain a relaxed attitude,
that calmness will be conveyed to the other person,
leaving them with an impression of comfort.😌

And, to deepen human relationships,
knowing how to create opportunities for small talk is also important.

Rather than relying on the power of alcohol,
inviting someone for tea or lunch is more effective.
It has the advantages of being easier to estimate the time
and being more reasonable.
Furthermore, if you can invite them to a common hobby
and spend time together immersed in it,
wouldn't that be useful
for both work and your private life?✨

If you
often feel like you're spinning your wheels in conversation...
or want to build comfortable relationships,
why not try practicing these reaction techniques and invitation methods?

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