📚232: Think Outside the Box! The Core Values to Cherish in Conversation

🟠 Prologue 🟠
- Introduction -

Hello, I'm Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
In doing so,I have condensed the things that left an impression on me and the lessons I learned
into tips for living!
I hope they are useful in your daily life too♪

This time,
it's about what you should value
as your core in conversation!

* Please also check out this article for the reasons why I continue reading and what I learn (^^)!!

🟩 Chapter.1 🟩
- Reading Details -

🟥 Chapter.2 🟥
- Choose Fun Over Being Right -

Everyone has their own values.
There is no one in this world
who has the exact same values as you.

If you forget that and
insist only on your own values,
you will inevitably
end up denying the other person's values.
Speaking with your own sense of being right as the axis
can trigger various troubles.

In order to talk while respecting each other's values,
it is important to talk with fun as the axis.

You can never have too much
of the emotion of fun.
In fact, the more you have,
the happier everyone present can be.

Also, when you encounter values
that differ from your own common sense,
instead of denying them immediately,
accept them for the moment as a new way of thinking.
By doing so,
you can keep the conversation moving smoothly.

🟦 Chapter.3 🟦
- Listen to the Emotions Behind the Words -

There are various reasons why people get angry,
such as when someone does something wrong or does something unpleasant,
but the biggest cause is when their self-esteem
is denied.

People are creatures different from yourself.
There are many things that are trivial to you
but important to the other person.

Understand that people's hearts are that delicate,

and it is very important to first listen thoroughly
to the other person's thoughts and arguments.In human relationships,
you can never be too careful with your words.

Judging or criticizing others
with careless words
will ultimately result in you losing out yourself,so it is important to remember that.

🟣 Epilogue 🟣
- Summary of This Time -

Through my reading today,
I learned about what I should value
as my core in conversation!

In your conversations,
are you insisting on "your own rightness"
and denying the other person's values?

Everyone has their own values,
and no two people are exactly the same.
That is why it is said that speaking with your own rightness as the axis
can trigger trouble.
Instead,it is important to talk with fun as the axisand fill the space with that emotion✨

And in social interactions,
listening to the emotions behind the words is important.

The number one reason people get angry is when they feel their self-esteem has been denied.
People's hearts are that delicate.
Being close to those feelings and listening thoroughly to the other person's thoughts and arguments is the key to building good human relationships🔑

If you are someone who
"tends to worry about human relationships..."
"wants to have more fun conversations and grow as a person!"
If you think that,
why not try practicing listening to emotions with "fun" as your axis?

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Next time,
we will discuss how to face emotions
so that you don't make each other uncomfortable!

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