📚172: Don't Decide by Words! Human Relationships Change Based on Your Feelings for Others - Reading '90% of Life is How You Speak' (7) -
Prologue
- Introduction -
Hello, I'm Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
I have summarized the things that touched my heart and the insights I learned
as tips for living!I hope they are useful for your daily life too♪
This time,
it's about the importance of not jumping to conclusions with words, but reading
the feelings of the other person!
※ Please also check out this article for the reasons why I continue reading and what I learn (^^)!!
Chapter.1
- Reading Details -
Chapter.2
- Focusing on What Lies Behind the Words -
Regardless of gender, humans are creatures
that want to be understood.
If you try to draw conclusions immediately from the other person's words
and do not value anything else,
a gap will arise in your relationship with them.
What is important is not the "meaning of the words" but
"the emotions behind them."If you take what the other person says
at face value,
you will end up attracting
an unexpected reality.
Spouses, lovers, friends, workplace relationships, etc.
Our lives are built
on relationships with various people.
In that context, how much are we able to focus
on the other person's emotions?
What is truly important in human relationships is
being able to notice the other person's true feelings!
Chapter.3
- The Ultimate Way of Speaking -
When talking to someone,
"May (the other person) be happy"is what you should
pray while speaking.
By doing so, regardless of the content of the conversation,
that feeling will be conveyed to the other person.
Strangely enough,
the speaker's heart is conveyed to the other person.
As you speak while thinking of the other person,
words will start to flow out,
and you will become someone who is needed.
Sometimes it doesn't go well at first, but
while speaking with the other person in mind,
you will be able to feel only what the other person truly values
and put it into words.
✅️ What would it be like if I were in this person's shoes?
✅️ What kind of words would I say
if this person were right in front of me?
By repeating the practice of asking yourself that,
you will naturally be able to see things
from the other person's perspective!
Epilogue
- Summary of this time -
Through my reading today,
I learned about the importance of not deciding by words, but
reading the other person's feelings!
Are you taking what the other person says
at face value
and jumping to conclusions?
Actually, what is truly important in human relationships is
the "emotions"behind the words.A big difference in relationships is born
depending on how much you can focus on the other person's emotions.
Doesn't this apply to your human relationships too?
And the ultimate way of speaking is
to speak while praying
that the other person "may be happy."
They say that feeling will definitely be conveyed to the other person!
As you speak while thinking of the other person,
words will naturally start to come out,
and if you can truly be there for the other person from your heart,
that would be wonderful, wouldn't it?✨
"What would I do if I were this person?"
By repeatedly practicing asking yourself this,
you will naturally come to see things from the other person's perspective.
By doing so,
if you develop the ability to sense
what the other person truly values, wouldn't that ultimately
lead to personal growth?
If you
"often struggle with human relationships..."
or "want to be more trusted by others!"
why not try consciously changing to this ultimate way of speaking
that is based on your feelings for the other person?
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Next time,
we will discuss your mindset at work and your outlook on life!
Highlights So Far
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