📚260: Change the Depth of Your Life! The Third Place and Habits of Attraction
🟠 Prologue 🟠
- Introduction -
Hello, this is Tochamin.
I usually read for about 30 minutes a day.
I have condensed the things that stayed in my heart and the insights I learned
into tips for living!I hope they are useful for your daily life too♪
This time,
it's about the value of a third place and
habits of attraction!
※ Please also take a look at this article regarding the reasons for continuing to read and what to learn (^^)!!
🟩 Reading Details 🟩
🟥 Learning ① 🟥
- Having a Third Place -
Neither at work nor at home,
having a third place,
and whether or not you have a place where you can burn your life to the fullest
changes the flavor and depth of your life.
And that is not something you get passively,
but something you find and encounter yourself.
【First-Class】
Living with a third place
Spending your life with a place that leads you and those around you to happiness.
From the sense, knowledge, and connections gained there,
synergy is created, and friendships and
affection that transcend interests sprout.
【Second-Class】
Just looking for a place to escape
Spending holidays just recuperating.
Friends and companions connected by emotion do not increase,
and there is no one you connect with heart-to-heart outside of work.
【Third-Class】
Having no place to be, neither ON nor OFF
Having no place that can be called a place to be, neither at work nor in private life.
Always saying things like it's a hassle or lonely,
and needing a little bit of rebellion against yourself.
🟦 Learning ② 🟦
- Being influenced by different fields -
Even if it is a story from a different field, if you sharpen your perspective,
there are things you can incorporate into your own world.
Just watching from afar
will only end as mere appreciation.
【First-Class】
Using different fields as a weapon to expand your stage
Replacing success stories from different fields with your own work
and arranging them.
The attitude of giving your all to unfamiliar challenges
can unintentionally create trust.
【Second-Class】
Flirting here and there and losing your main focus
Getting distracted by different fields
and casually trying your hand at multiple fields.
Everything is half-baked,
and you cannot find an exquisite success pattern.
【Third-Class】
Failing to notice the value in other fields
Consuming other fields merely as entertainment
and ending up objective.
Because one's own core is vague,
one cannot connect the value.
🟨 Learning ③ 🟨
- How to perceive drinking parties -
A drinking party is a place where you take off your work armor
and reveal your true self.
Your personality and charm appear in
how you speak and listen,
and how you handle pauses and reactions.
[First-class]
Ask questions that make the other person happy
Set the stage for the other person to be the star.
Instead of just nodding along to what they say,
match their enthusiasm for what they are passionate about.
As a result, you can make
the other person say they want to meet you again.
[Second-class]
Keep receiving silent retorts
While you have the power to keep the atmosphere from getting boring,
you don't reach the point of raising the other person's happiness level.
You talk too much about yourself,
leaving no room for the other person to speak.
[Third-class]
Focus only on eating and drinking
You misunderstand a drinking party as a place to get your money's worth.
You don't have the mindset of
making people happy before you leave.
🟣 Epilogue 🟣
- Summary of this session -
Through today's reading,
I learned about the value of a third place and
the habits of attraction!
Do you have a place other than work and home
(a third place)?
First-class people create synergy with the
sense, knowledge, and connections gained from their third place,
deepening their lives.
Compared to spending holidays just recuperating,
their approach to happiness is decisively different!
It seems like you would receive good influences
if there is value such as friendship and love that sprout beyond interests 🌍
And, connections with other fields
expand your stage.
Have the mindset to connect objective value to your own core,
and arrange it by applying it to your own work.
The attitude of giving your all to these things
is what earns you trust!
Furthermore, a drinking party is a place to take off your work armor.
Instead of just thinking about yourself,
the altruistic spirit of raising the other person's happiness level
is what makes the difference ✨
If you think,
"I want to make my life deeper and richer!"
"I want to acquire first-class humanity
and grow as a person!"
why not try implementing
habits for your own place and attraction?
Next time preview
Next time,
it's about when to let go of effort and comfortable margins!
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