A story about how teaching children how to study and writing articles on note have something in common

Hello, this is Panda Gorogoro.

Today, Panda will talk about points parents should be careful of when teaching their children how to study!

* By the way, I used to be a high school teacher. I have experienced this myself, and both of my children have also gone through private middle school entrance exams.

And, this point of caution can also be used by those who are struggling with how to write note articles, so if you do not have children attending school, please skip the first half and read from the second half.

▼Fathers and mothers with children preparing for middle school entrance exams

▼Parents of children attending elementary or middle school who are not going to cram school

▼Those who are writing note articles with their own ingenuity to be helpful to readers, but are not seeing an increase in likes or PVs

First, here is the conclusion.

When your child asks you about something they don't understand in their studies,

only answer what the child asked

To the fathers and mothers who say, "That's obvious," or "That's what I'm doing,"

Is that really true?

Aren't you saying extra things?

If your child asks, "Why did the 'XX Incident' happen again?"

when they ask you,

please answer only,

"Because YY and ZZ were fighting for power."

"As for the background, the situation at the time was..."

or,

"As a result, VV ended up seizing power, and ZZ..."

are you talking about things you were not even asked about?things you were not even asked about

If you,

"If I only answer the questions the child asks, won't that fail to teach them properly?"

or,

"Since they went to the trouble of asking, I want to teach them everything I know to help them understand."

or,

"Now that they are motivated, this is a chance to get ahead of their rivals, so I'll explain it thoroughly so they never forget it."

and you think things like this, andanswer things other than what was asked,

unfortunately, your parental love will backfire.

Your child is only listening to the part that answers what they asked, and

I think you are being

"annoying"

when you explain things beyond that.

"I didn't ask you to go that far"

is what yourchild really thinks.

Furthermore,

"I wish you would just answer what I asked, why can't my mom (or dad) do that?"

is what they are thinking.

And, if that happens a few times,

"I'm going to stop asking Mom and Dad about my studies."

is what happens.

As a result, if they become able to study on their own, that is a wonderful thing.

However, in reality, a child who is attempting to take middle school entrance exams is still just an elementary school student.

Even for middle school students, it is difficult to carry out home study without any oversights on their own.

For an elementary school student attempting to take on the challenge of entrance exams for a top-tier school, the help of their parents is indispensable.

So, how can you teach your child to study without them hating it??

The answer is,

only answer what the child asks you.

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Children rely on their parents because it is quicker to get an answer by asking their parents than by thinking or researching it themselves.

Since they are relying on you, the parent who is right there, rather than looking at a reference book or asking a teacher at school or cram school, you should meet their expectations.

Don't say anything unnecessary, and answer their questions precisely.

By doing so, your child, whose question has been resolved, can immediately move on to the next step (problem).

They can continue their study rhythm without interruption.

Give the other person what they are looking for, not what you want to give them.

And that is a truth that can be applied not only when teaching children to study, but also when writing articles on note.

When writing an article on note, write about only one thing.

It is often said, isn't it?

Write only one theme per article,

that is.

Even though I understand it in my head and should know it,

I end up doing it anyway.

Thinking that I want to write about this, and that it might be helpful for the reader to know about that,

I end up adding this and that, and writing more.

If it's a field I'm good at and I have a lot of knowledge,

even if I have absolutely no intention of showing off,

I think that writing about this and that,

might be kind to the reader,

and I keep writing about more and more detailed things,

and well, what happens then, you ask?

The reader,

"No one asked for this,"

and they stop reading...

It's a tragedy, isn't it?

What you did with good intentions backfired completely.

This is the exact same pattern as teaching children how to study, which I wrote about in the first half.

In other words, you didn't just try to give the child what they wanted—the answer to their question—but instead

you tried to give them what you wanted to give—deeper knowledge—which was something the child didn't need,

and that is why the child disliked it.

Give the other person what they want, not what you want to give them.Give the other person what they want.

In other words, you should write your articles by focusing only on what the reader wants to know.

The things you think you want to tell the reader more and more are just trivial details to the reader and are not that important.

Focus your theme on what the reader thinks is important, and deliver the solution simply and clearly.

To summarize.

Give the other person what they want, not what you want to give them.Give the other person what they want.

When teaching a child how to study,

only answer what the child asks you.

The child will dislike you if you try to teach them other things out of good intentions.

Because what the child wants to know is the answer to their question, not the explanation you want to give.

Similarly, when writing a note article, write only the answer that solves the reader's problem.

You may have many things you want to write about or share with your readers, such as how to live after solving the problem or your mindset regarding the various things that stem from that concern, but you must hold back on that.

One article should have only one theme.

If you want to write more or share more, you can just write it in a separate new article.

I have written some high-and-mighty things, but these are all based on lessons I, Panda, have learned from my long life of failures.

I hope this will be helpful for young people in the future.

Thank you for reading until the end.

I sincerely appreciate your likes, comments, and follows.