20230416_Things to keep in mind when being consulted_What words did parents who raised geniuses use?_Atsuhiko Nakata's YouTube University_Introduction and impressions 1/2

Introduction

Hello, I'm Kei.

In a previous article, I introduced content that "cheered me up" when I lost all motivation, along with my impressions, in three parts (
Part 1, Part 2, Part 3).I felt energized when I watched the videos, but I also felt quite energized when writing about them on note and after I finished, and I think I was able to make my life better.
I realized once again the benefits of outputting.
This time, I would like to record content that I thought could make my life better, including my impressions.

Video introduced this time

This time, I would like to introduce something that I think will be useful in life:

is the channel.

Overview of the content

It introduces not the words spoken by great people, but the words that created them.
It introduces "it's good to say these words" for various situations.

Impressions of the video as a whole

Although it is introduced as a way to speak when raising children, I think it is
something you can say to anyone close to you.I think it is useful content even for those who do not currently have children.

In the future, I would like to provide a place where I can convey to children "important things in life other than studying." I thought this could be useful then as well.

Content and impressions

To a child who doesn't want to go to school

　It cites the example of Takeshi Mori as a great person. To Takeshi Mori, who started skipping school,
・Father: "Spend a day more fulfilling than going to school."
　And after it continued for a few more days,
・Father: "Take a break while controlling it so you don't fail."
　These episodes are introduced.

●Points
・If a child doesn't want to go to school
Conversations based on the premise that "you must go" are NG.
　It is seen as not being able to communicate.
・Direct denial and advice are also NG.
　People only want to listen to advice from those they feel are truly watching them.

・The most important things are empathy and observation
・Example of empathy: "There are times when you don't want to go to school."
・Example of observation: Observe the other person closely while thinking "Why is it like this? Why are they doing this?"
・First, listen

Impressions)
　It might be strange to write this impression right away in an introduction to a video about how to speak, but before how to speak, I felt that "can you respect the other person as an individual?" is the most important thing. Just as I hate being denied, I might need to be aware that other people also hate being denied. I want to be conscious of "not denying" the people who are important to me.
　In the example of Takeshi Mori, I felt that he respected him as an individual because he did not deny him for not going to school, but left the management up to him.
　I have a habit of stating my own conclusions immediately when I don't have enough room in myself, so I want to be careful. I think people who can think with composure at any time are wonderful people. I want to cultivate my own personality so that I can become such a person.

To a child who lacks confidence

　It cites the example of Agatha Christie as a great person. Surprisingly, Agatha Christie did not have confidence in writing novels. Her sister, who was 10 years older, said,
・Sister 10 years older: "Ordinary people can't write novels. I'll bet on it."
It seems she lost her confidence after being told that.
　At that time, her mother said,
・Mother: "There's no such thing as 'you can't do it.' Because you haven't written yet."
　Furthermore, she bought a practice notebook and said,
・Mother: "You can write in this notebook starting today."
　These episodes are introduced.

●Points
・What you can do for a child who lacks confidence
Give them groundless trust.
There is no basis. But I believe in you. This message is important.
"You can do it." "It's okay." "You will surely become a great person."

Impressions)
Personally, I was most moved by the words Agatha Christie's mother said to her.
I think everyone has times when they lose confidence. At such times, "You can do it," or "You'll be fine." I think being told these things can be very encouraging. I feel that the power of such words becomes even greater when they come from someone who has always been watching you closely. I also have an experience where my younger brother encouraged me during the final interview for my job hunt. I was so encouraged that I am still very grateful to him even now.
I feel that I would like to be able to encourage as many people as possible who are involved with me using words like these.

Since this has become long, I would like to end it here for now.