Realizing a Change in Perspective After a Major Failure
Good morning. This is Ichiyama.
I wanted to feel the night breeze, so
I went for a walk while going out to buy dinner.
The snow that had piled up has completely melted,
and I finally feel that spring has arrived.
Yesterday, for the first time in my content creation activities,
I made such a huge mistake that I had to delete the article I posted and
I really messed up.
I ended up causing a lot of trouble.
Naturally, I felt a lot of negative emotions.
Guilt for causing trouble
Regret for having posted it
The emptiness of the article I created becoming useless
Self-rejection for having caused this situation
The impatience of needing to recover quickly
I felt like I was going to be crushed.
If it were the old me,
I think I probably would have collapsed.
No, I think I would have crushed myself instead.
I wouldn't have even written an article like this.
I would have rejected myself, punished myself,
deleted the account that was proof of my existence,
and quit posting.
I think it would have taken a lot of time
to recover and look forward again.
Why was I able to look forward...?
Probably because I have become able to
turn mistakes and failures into something positive.
I think it is because I have started to
accept what happened, find the lesson, and put it to use and
think that way.
In the past, I was a negative thinker.
Every time something happened, I would self-deprecate.
It was normal for me to blame myself, thinking, "I'm no good" or "It's my fault."
At the root of it all was a negative foundation.
Immediately after this failure, I held my head in my hands, thinking, "I messed up," and my heart ached.
To be honest, that feeling still lingers.
Even so, I am able to move on.
I have become able to tell myself, "I messed up, but it's okay."
What should I make public?
What would be problematic to reveal?
An opportunity to rethink the boundaries of what I share—I was able to learn this along with the pain.
I believe my past experiences are supporting me now.
If you keep self-deprecating, negative things happen one after another,
making your heart feel even more burdened.
I have also been caught in a negative loop where bad things happen,
leading to self-deprecation.
Negativity is contagious.
It is precisely because of my past experiences that I have come to
think about turning negativity into positivity
.
How do we face mistakes and failures?
What do we learn from mistakes and failures,
and what kind of words do we offer ourselves?
We have the power to choose.
As long as we continue to take on challenges,
we will likely fail, whether big or small.
Pain is also bound to occur.
At that time, I would like to say, "It's okay," and move forward with
a positive mindset that puts learning to use.
I want to keep moving forward.
Thank you for reading until the end.
When you make a mistake or fail,
what kind of words do you say to yourself?
Bonus
It seems that Mr. Sueyoshi's new book
will be released on April 21st.
There is an event being held to commemorate it.
Please check this article for more details.