Reading "The Book on How to Skillfully Remove the Thorns of Words Stuck in Your Heart" by kokko

My fellow publishing community member, heart counselor kokko, happily published her third book on September 24th!
I would like to write my own impressions of the book.

First, the thing that surprised me most when I started reading was the words kokko's mother said to her when she was a child that hurt her...
"Hurry up," "Slowpoke," "Lazy"
"Because you're the big sister"
These were exactly the words I was told when I was a child.

I have always been a person who goes at my own pace, or rather, I have a laid-back personality, and I wasn't the type to be conscious of those around me and get fired up by saying things like "I don't want to lose!," so perhaps my mother was frustrated, wondering, (Is this child going to be okay?).

However, I don't remember doing anything wrong, but being told "Lazy!" or "Slowpoke!" over and over again as if I were incompetent really hurt, and I remember how sad and exhausting it was.
I was one of four siblings, and no one else was spoken to that way, which made me lose even more confidence in myself.

And before I knew it, I became obsessed with the compulsion that "I have to hurry!," and I feel like I became unable to think for myself in my own way. (A tragedy...)
Also, after I grew up, I sometimes felt frustrated with friends who were very slow in their movements but still composed.
That child must have grown up without being told the things I was told...
(I tried so hard to hurry up!!) I used to feel so helpless.

If I could have met kokko, who was hurt in the same way back when we were young...
I, being a fan of daydreaming, imagined that we might have been able to hug each other, comfort each other, and encourage each other.

Because I have had similar experiences, I truly realize that the influence of "words" is enormous, for better or worse.
Kokko's mother, and my mother, probably said those things on impulse without knowing any better at the time...
I cannot say that I wouldn't throw out words that become "thorns" if I were to get emotional myself.

On the other hand, good words like "thank you" and "it's okay," which kokko calls "magic words" in this book, have the power to encourage and cheer yourself up even when you are in a difficult situation, and to move your life in a better direction by raising your "self-esteem."

Time flowed on from my childhood, which holds sad memories, and now that I am a full-grown adult, I reached a very big turning point just after passing the halfway point of my life.
I will omit the details here as it would become too long, but
from that point on, I clearly decided to "live like myself!"
I began to consciously cherish my "own emotions," "things I like," and "things and places where I feel happy."

Living like that, I began to awaken to my own "values."
And by following those values, my hesitation and anxiety decreased overwhelmingly.
In the midst of that, I realized that I, too, had encountered "words" that encourage myself, just like kokko.

Kokko's book focuses on "words," but I felt that there are parts of kokko's life that overlap with my own, and I read it with great empathy.

Although kokko was hurt and suffered from her mother's thoughtless, thorny words when she was a child, because of that experience, her sensitivity to "words" was sharpened, and she discovered that there are "words" that act as "thorns" that cast a curse, and in contrast, "good words" that act as "magic." Now, she is saving people who are suffering and struggling every day with those thorns still stuck in them, without even realizing it.

It is a wonderful book that makes you feel like you want to consciously rethink the "words" you use casually every day.
The cover design by Midori Akita is also beautiful, cute, and comforting (^^)
I would be happy if you all could pick it up.