The Eldest Son and the Second Son 29 《A True Record of School Non-Attendance》

Burnout

Burnout syndrome is when someone who has been pushing themselves hard in areas like work suddenly loses their motivation or enthusiasm. It is literally a state of being 'burned out,' leaving one extremely exhausted both mentally and physically.

My second son, having returned from his school trip, is completely burned out. It is exactly as I expected, one might say.

Since the end of last year, he had barely been able to go to the separate room, the adaptation classroom, or his club activities to begin with. However, he poured all his remaining strength into participating in the school trip because he wanted to make memories with his friends and teachers. It is no wonder he is burned out.

Parents should not start dreaming here, thinking, 'Since he was able to go on the school trip, maybe he can go back to school?'
Of course, if that were to happen, I would be grateful, but that is simply not how it works.

Because he is burned out, after all.

To be honest, I was a little worried that the teachers might change their attitude toward 'expectations.'
(That is how much my second son was enjoying the school trip.)
However, although there was a slight atmosphere encouraging him to take the midterm exams, they did not put too much pressure on him and, as before, maintained a patient stance.

How grateful I am... I truly have nothing but gratitude.

Although he is burned out, I feel like there is some movement in his heart.
'I don't know when the club retirement date is, but it's the end, so I want to go.'
'I haven't been to the adaptation classroom at all, so I want to go.'
'The separate room has been renovated, so I want to go.'

The fact that he says these things out loud several times might also be a way of telling himself.
It would be easy if I could just say, 'If you want to go that much, then just go,' but...

It is finally July.
The summer vacation of the third year of junior high is when entrance exam studies begin in earnest.

It doesn't look like the winds of study will be blowing in our house.
I am secretly worried about the fact that the friends who are playing with him now will eventually stop playing with him.
At that time, there will be applications for correspondence high schools and things like essays or short papers to submit, so I will likely be accompanying him for those.
(I have to prepare myself mentally.)

An unexpected trial

My eldest son, who had started enjoying university life.
He joined the light music club and practiced the drums.
He also showed his face at a sports circle and was very fulfilled!... or so he was.

He developed an unexpected 'herniated disc.'
I suspect it is because he had a long period of obesity and being a gaming addict, and he entered his entrance exam studies without having built up proper muscle strength...

For my eldest son, these were the fun days he had finally attained.
He must have felt like he stumbled right away, thinking, 'It hurts, and am I going to be unable to play the drums too?'
He is taking his frustration out on me.

I understand his feelings, and I feel sorry for him.
But taking it out on others is completely wrong.

How can the pain be reduced?
What should he be careful about to continue playing the drums?
Regarding the mechanism of the onset and how long it will take to heal,
'Arm yourself with solid knowledge, find what you can do, and fight it yourself.'

I told my eldest son.

If I may add one more thing, I am also a hernia sufferer.
Even so, I was able to drive a car and I even gave birth.
If you have time to take your frustration out on others, think about how you can live with it and heal it.
I said.

My eldest son has woken up a little.
He changed his drum practice time to be in short bursts
(when he started, he used to play for over two hours straight)
and changed it so he wouldn't be sitting for long periods.
He is also conscious of his posture when sitting, and his feelings seem to be moving forward little by little.

He seems to be in quite a bit of pain if he doesn't take his medicine, and there are times when he looks like he is struggling, but the other day he was acting as a home tutor for his younger brother while standing up.
My eldest son is strangely fragile and sensitive.
And what he does is also extreme.
When he was in the third grade of elementary school playing soccer, his coach also told him, 'Is it only 0 or 100? Keep it at 70.'

If he can learn to control his emotions and develop a resilient spirit,

I believe this hernia won't be in vain.

I think.

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