Days ending in 5 are days to be gently one-handed

Hello.

The harder you try to be kind, the less things seem to go well.

I tried to be kind, and
I got a little tired.

The more I tried to do my best,
the heavier kindness became.

I have felt that way before.

Kindness isn't so much about
doing something for someone,

but about being ready to give it at any time.


And another thing,

that I think is just a little important,
is enjoying the way you think about things.

Kindness isn't just about actions,

but I feel it also seeps into how you perceive and view a situation.

But honestly, there are days when I couldn't do it well.

I didn't have the capacity,

I responded a bit roughly,
and later I thought,

"I could have been a little kinder."
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Kindness you can do with one hand,

I found that idea.

It's not about correctness or perfection, but something a little lighter.

When you brace yourself with both hands,
you inevitably get stiff trying to "do it right,"

but with just one hand, you have a little room to spare.

I feel that the lightness of that room to spareis the kindness that gets through.＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿


To make kindness lighter,



these are the three things I often recall.
①

Don't make it difficult
You don't have to understand everything, and
you don't have to settle on one single meaning.
Take it in with a "maybe it's something like this" attitude.
②

Don't brace yourself
Don't overthink that you have to say something.
Kindness isn't so much about preparing and delivering it,
but more like being a little open from the start.
③

Enjoy the way you think
This might be the most important one.
Instead of looking for the right answer,
try playing with the idea that "there might be another way to look at this."
Treat understanding not as a "task," but as something with a little margin.
To summarize,


・Don't make it difficult

・Don't brace yourself
・Try enjoying it just a little
I think that alone

will make kindness much lighter.
When kindness becomes heavy,

it's usually when you're trying to "do it right,"
but in reality,

I feel that being a little loose
often gets the message across better.
People might feel more at ease

with lightness and room to spare than with correctness.
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The image of one-handed kindness is something like this.


・Find a little fun in what you don't understand

・Try looking at the other person's words from a different angle
・Hold onto another perspective instead of just the right answer
With this much lightness,

the other person feels a bit more relaxed,
and I don't get too tired either.
And this isn't anything special,

I myself

pick up trash with one hand,
put a chair back in its place,
and keep my pinky-swear promises.

I value such small things.

Even if it's not a grand act of kindness,

I feel that's often enough to get the message across.
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If you want to make it a habit, try it about once a month.

Days ending in 5 are days for one-handed kindness.

The 5th, 15th, and 25th.
One hand = 5 fingers. I thought that would be easy to remember.

On those days, just be conscious of one thing.

Don't look for the right answer.
Enjoy looking at things a little differently.
Take things lightly.

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Kindness isn't just something you have to work hard at.

It's as if there are things that remain the more you lighten it up.

If you try to do it properly, you get stiff,
but being a little loose
can sometimes reach people better.

If you add just a little bit of
perspective or playfulness to that,

your interactions with people become softer than you might think.

Kindness can be much freer.

It has range, it comes in many shapes,
and I think that's fine.

Let lightness and playfulness be the spice of your kindness.


Thank you for reading until the end.

Have a great day today.