🌹 To truly move your reality, I will not claim to be a 'sweet-only savior' for unrequited love — You don't have just one soulmate —

I'm done with the same old patterns.
I want to let go of old romantic patterns from the root,
and move my reality forward.

If you have that kind of resolve, please read on.

This article
is not about coddling you forever with sweet words.

If you feel this is harsh,
or if you are currently afraid to face yourself,
you don't have to force yourself to keep reading.

That said,
this is not meant to scare anyone either.
I am talking about facing love
from a very realistic perspective.

From here on,
including this article,
I will explain everything carefully
over the course of four articles✨️

First of all, when it comes to love, I have always lived as the 'one being consulted'.
Back when I was active on fortune-telling sites, I handled a lot of love consultations, and
I am an expert in everything from luck, money, and career to love luck🥰

And even though I say 'love consultation' in one breath,
the 'top three worries' I actually saw most often were these.
• No contact/reconciliation
• Multiple relationships/complex relationships
• Unrequited love

Among these, what was common for both my past and current clients
was that many wereso-called 'high-achieving, popular women',so I often dealt with
multiple relationships, complex relationships, affairs, divorce consultations, and
complex partnership consultations
where a partner already existed.

In other words,

'Love where the relationship is already in motion'
'Love that involves not just emotions, but reality'

I dealt with these areas overwhelmingly often.

By the way, this isn't bragging or anything, but
honestly, I don't remember ever having trouble with love since I was a kindergartner.

Whether in my student days or after entering the workforce,
I never had a period where I struggled with relationships with the opposite sex,
and that's not because of how I look
or because I was a model-level beauty.

I have always been
pretty good at self-analysis,
sensing the other person's feelings,
and gauging distance.

While adapting my character to the other person (⚠️ this doesn't mean being dyed by them or making them do what I want),
on top of that,
'I have good chemistry with this person'
'I shouldn't step in here'
I was the type who could naturally make those judgments.

That's why
I was quick to tell if there was interest or not,
and I never forced myself to chase after someone.

In that sense,
I think I hada self-centered, lighthearted, and brilliant romantic constitution.※I've settled down now, though🤭
To be honest,

I'm not bad at consultations about unrequited love.
However,
it is a field where I have an unshakable answer.With someone who isn't moving forward,

there is a possibility that your wavelengths are different, or that 'something' just isn't clicking.
Or,
there might be something unseen stopping you because you might be in danger if you go any further.

What do you want to do with that person? Do you want to make them happy? Do you want them to make you happy? Do you want to satisfy each other as man and woman? Does the other person feel the same way as you?

No, no, are you really looking at what happens after you start dating? Dating, getting married, interacting with each other's families, etc., as you push forward in a partnership, your community expands.Someday, it will no longer be just a romance between two people. Also, do you know who the other person really is, and do you have theresolve to love themto that extent? Even if the person is usually sparkling, they might have a habit you absolutely cannot tolerate. They might be unfaithful, or live in a filthy room. They might have an incredibly terrible family or relatives. You might not get along due to religious issues. You don't necessarily have to assume the negative, but it's about how much resolve you have. Reality is not a protagonist in a shonen or shojo manga on a piece of paper; it's not just romance or a dream story. Reality involves both yin and yang simultaneously. You can't just take the good parts. Can you fully accept both?

In a reality where you cannot step forward, you may be given time to be calm, and there may be a loving arrangement from unseen beings.

Besides, your soulmate is not just one person in a lifetime.

We meet many people in our long lives, and we make various promises before we are born. Once the learning is finished, the relationship with the other person ends quite easily. If your soul grows, you must change something. If you stay the same and use the same methods, eventually a forced ending or an event that forces you to face reality may occur, and you might distance yourself from what is truly important to your soul.

While you are stopping time, the soulmate who is still waiting for the 'you' they haven't met yet might be left waiting and feeling lonely.

You must never stop the speed of your heart's growth or the stages of your soul's learning. Life keeps flowing.

That is why,

there is a better partner for you,
someone with the same wavelength.

This way of thinking is at my core.

First, realistically,

properly accept the fact that the other person's arrow is not pointing at you.

Then, think about what to do.

I believe that is what it's about.

When you are that detached, your obsession fades, and reality sometimes starts to move. By that time, though, you might have lost interest in the other person.

Our current life is only once.
Not knowing when it will end,
continuing a self-contained romance without anything happening
feels close to stopping time.

Because,

I believe that in love, whether a relationship is mutually established is far more important than just 'thinking about them' and savoring it alone.

That is why I
do not intend to romanticize unrequited love,
give you hope by saying 'it will pay off someday',
or become a savior for unrequited love.

Instead, from the next article,
•Why unrequited love tends to be painful
• What is decisively different from mutual love
• Where it starts to deviate from reality

Not as an emotional argument, but
I intend to explain it as a structure.It might sound harsh,

but this is not a denial, but

A discussion on 'perspectives for shifting your reality'.

I am writing this for those who want to graduate from unrequited love,
and for those who do not want to remain stuck in the same place.