The '6 Moments' When ENFP Charm Blossoms — Excitement Brings Destiny

Just by being excited,
things somehow work out.

That version of myself,
is sometimes a mystery,
and sometimes a source of anxiety.

There were days when I thought,
'I need to be more organized,'
but before I knew it,
I was always moving in the direction my heart was drawn to.

The moment when energy naturally overflows

As an ENFP,
my day changes completely based on how I feel when I wake up.

Even if I decided the day before,
'I'll do this today,'
if the direction of my energy
feels different the moment I wake up,
that plan just fades away.

I used to blame myself for having a 'weak will.'
But lately, I've come to think that
on days when I followed this flow of energy
without resisting it,
for some reason, better encounters
and unexpected developments occurred.

For example,
on a day I was supposed to be creating documents,
I suddenly felt an uncontrollable urge to talk to someone,
and when I reached out to an old friend,
it turned out that friend
had something they wanted to consult me about,
and from there, a new project
was born.

For an ENFP, 'not feeling motivated'
might not be about wanting to slack off,
but rather a sign telling you
that now is not the time.

That's why lately,
I don't ignore the direction of my energy,
and when I feel, 'I'm being pulled this way today,'
I try to honestly follow that path.

As a result,
my plans often fall apart, but
the flow of my life,
for some reason, is moving in a better direction.
I find it mysterious.

When listening to someone's story

As an ENFP,
while listening to people talk,
I end up imagining their emotions and background
on my own.

More than the content of the conversation,
I might spend more time thinking,
'How is this person feeling right now?'
'What do they really want to say?'

So after a conversation,
it's common for me to think,
'Wait, what were the specific details again?'

But in exchange,
I remember the shifts in the other person's emotions
strangely vividly,
and months later,
I can naturally recall,
'By the way, you said this back then.'

The reason ENFPs are often said to have
'high empathy'
might not be because we understand the other person's words
exactly as they are,
but because we have experienced the emotions behind the words
within ourselves.

That can be exhausting at times.
I sometimes get tired from taking on too much of the other person's worries.
But precisely because of that,

people who talk to an ENFP
often say,
'I feel a bit lighter.'
Even though I'm just listening,

the reason the other person's feelings get organized
is because I am accepting those emotions with them.
When an ENFP is listening to someone,

we are living in their world with them.
I think that is the most natural
and comfortable moment.

Right after meeting someone new

For an ENFP,
a conversation with someone I've just met
is closer to excitement
than nervousness.

'What kind of world does this person have?'
'What are they passionate about?'

When I talk while thinking things like that,
for some reason, the other person opens up too,
and before I know it, we're having a deep conversation.

But the aftermath is a bit difficult.
Even though it's very lively the moment we meet,
I'm bad at keeping in touch,
and sometimes months pass
after saying, 'Let's go eat again.'

I get a little anxious,
wondering if the other person thinks,
'Was that just a social pleasantry?'
But I don't think that's the case.

ENFPs have no lies
in their feelings at that moment.
I really do want to see them again.

It's just that,
rather than making future plans,
my consciousness is drawn to the person in front of me
or the impulse I'm feeling right now.
That's why,

when I get in touch after a long time
and they say, 'I was waiting for you!',
I'm incredibly happy.
Even if distance grows between us,

ENFPs often suddenly remember the other person,
and feel a warm sensation,
thinking, 'I wonder how they are.'
I think if I could reach out at that timing,

I might be able to build relationships
that continue more honestly.

The moment you suddenly feel, 'This might be it'

ENFPs often decide things
based on intuition.

Rather than thinking with my head and choosing logically,
following the feeling of,
'Somehow, I feel like this is it,'
has often led to better results.

For example,
even when choosing a job,
rather than conditions or stability,
I sometimes decide based on reasons like,
'I want to work with these people,'
'I like this atmosphere.'

When I try to explain that to those around me,
they sometimes say, 'Are you really sure about that?'
and I myself get lost, wondering,
'Should I have thought about it more properly?'
But looking back,

the things I chose based on intuition
had fewer regrets.
Things I chose after thinking logically

often led me to realize later,
'It was different after all,'
and at those times, I think,
'My intuition back then was more correct.'

For an ENFP, intuition
is not just a whim,
but perhaps a sign that my own experiences and emotions
are unconsciously teaching me.
That's why lately,

I value my 'somehows.'
Because I believe that is what it means to trust myself.

In the middle of creating something

When an ENFP starts creating something,
we sometimes lose track of time and become absorbed.

Writing a piece, painting a picture,
or planning something for someone.
At that time, the ENFP is

in a state of being completely connected
to the impulse inside of 'I want to do this,'
and nothing else matters.
But we might be bad at finishing things.
A different idea might pop up halfway through,

and we might get absorbed in that instead,
or we might get lost, wondering,
'Is this okay?'
and end up leaving it unfinished.

Even so,
the moment of creating itself
is happy for an ENFP,
and I feel that the process
has more meaning than the completion.

When someone says, 'This is good,'
I'm incredibly happy, but
more than that, the fact that I was able to give shape
to something that welled up from within me
fills my heart.

For an ENFP, creation
is not just a hobby,
but perhaps a process of confirming who I am.

'I feel this way,'
'I think this way.'

By giving shape to that,
the outline of myself becomes visible.

That's why,
even if there are many unfinished things,
I think that's okay.

All of them
are making the me of today.

When you pushed someone's back

When an ENFP sees someone struggling,
we naturally want to say, 'It's okay.'

'I want to try, but I'm scared,'
'What if I fail?'
When I hear words like that,
'It's okay if you fail,'
'It's more painful to regret not doing it,'
I end up saying those things.

Even though I myself
am always struggling,
I want others to find the courage.

That might seem contradictory,
but for an ENFP,
someone taking a step forward
feels somewhat the same
as me taking a step forward.

Watching someone's challenge
also leads to my own courage.

That's why, when the person I pushed
reports back later, 'I'm glad I tried it back then,'
I feel as happy as if it were my own success.
By believing in someone's potential,

ENFPs also become able to believe in their own potential.
That might be the reason
we naturally brighten up those around us.

The meaning of waiting for the timing

ENFPs are good at riding the flow,
but waiting for the timing
might be a bit difficult.
'I want to do it right now,'

'I want to meet right now,'
'I want to start right now.'
I want to move the moment I think that.

But lately,

I've come to understand something little by little.
That is,

'waiting for the timing to come' and
'doing nothing' are different things.
For an ENFP, 'waiting'

is not about saving energy,
or getting prepared,
but perhaps just 'continuing to feel.'
Continuing to feel my own feelings.

Continuing to feel the changes in the other person.
Continuing to feel the movements of the world.
While doing that,

the moment when I can think, 'Ah, now is the time,'
naturally arrives.
Believing in that

might be what 'waiting' means for an ENFP.

What lies beyond the excitement

I think the charm of an ENFP
is not about accomplishing something,
but about infecting those around us with excitement.

'This looks fun,'
'This person looks interesting,'
'This future will surely be wonderful.'

The sight of an ENFP with shining eyes like that
moves someone's heart.

That is not a strategy,
or a calculation,
but just purely,
expressing what I am feeling right now,
just as it is.

That's why,
people naturally gather around an ENFP.
'I feel like something is going to start when I'm with this person,'

'I can become positive too when I'm with this person.'
Being thought of in that way

might be the greatest charm for an ENFP.
It doesn't have to be perfect.

It doesn't have to be planned.
It doesn't have to be organized.
Just cherish the excitement you are feeling right now.

Just by doing that, I think the charm of an ENFP
will naturally blossom.

From here on out, together

I, too, am still living while struggling.
'Is this okay?'
'Should I be more proper?'
There are days when I think that.

But living as an ENFP
is not about finding answers,
but perhaps about continuing to feel,
I think.

You who read this article,
perhaps you are the same,
wondering if you can trust your own senses,
and might be struggling.

I don't think you need to deny that struggle.
Even while struggling,

if you feel excitement,
try going in that direction.
I think that is

the ENFP way of living.
I intend to keep living that way too,
so let's meet here again.
What shall we talk about next?

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Thank you very much.
Jun's Destiny Note.