To you, who ended up yelling at your child.

That "I'm sorry" can change your child's future.

"I yelled again..."
After the children have fallen asleep,
while sighing all alone,
"What a terrible mother I am..."

Have you ever blamed yourself like that?
Actually, the mothers who are working the hardest at parenting
are the ones carrying this pain.

But please, rest assured.
More than the fact that you yelled,
how you face them afterward
has a much greater impact on your child's heart.

For a child, their parents are
the first human relationship they encounter in life.

Therefore, the words, expressions, and attitudes received from parents in early childhood greatly influence personality development.

Even if they don't remember it themselves,
it remains firmly in the depths of their hearts.

That is precisely why
a parent apologizing sincerely has such great significance.
there is.

"I'm sorry for yelling so loudly earlier."
Just those few words.
But these words save a child's heart.

The heart that was hurt by being scolded finds peace,
"Mommy cares about me."
They can feel that kind of love.

Then,
"Yeah... I'm sorry too."
It is not uncommon for the child to say this back.

An apology is not a defeat.
It is an important expression of love that nurtures the bond of trust between parent and child.

When I look back on my own childhood,
I was often scolded by my parents.

My father was a strict person who would scold me, and without even asking why I did what I did, he would make me sit in seiza for about 30 minutes while he yelled.

My mother was also strict, but I could feel the love
in the way she scolded me.

After my father scolded me,
when I was crying facing the wall,
my mother would say,
"Children sometimes have their reasons for doing things, I'm sorry your father scolded you without listening."
She would apologize on my father's behalf with just those words.

Even now, I remember how those short words
saved my heart.

Looking back as an adult,
I still have some feelings toward my father that I cannot forgive.

But toward my mother, strangely enough,
I have no negative feelings.

An apology has
that much power to heal a person's heart.

However,
there is one thing I want you to be careful about
when you apologize.

That is
not to add "but..."

"I'm sorry. But, it's because you wouldn't listen."

This is not an apology.

The child, who is being blamed at the same time as the apology,
takes it as "In the end, I am a bad child."
When you apologize,

"Mommy scolded you too much. I'm sorry."
That is enough.
No excuses are needed.

And another important thing is

to apologize within the same day.
It's okay if you can't do it right away because you're angry.

Before going to sleep at night,

"I scolded you too much today.
I'm really sorry."
Just saying that is enough.
Children may sometimes shed tears of relief.

Some children might even vent their anger back at you.
Even so, please accept it.
That accumulation

gradually nurtures the trust between parent and child.
But finally,

there is one thing I want to convey most of all.
That is

not to blame yourself.
There is no practice for parenting.

Every day is a series of firsts.
Work, housework,

marital relationship,
lack of sleep...
With various things piling up,
there are days when you get irritated and end up yelling.
At such times,

"I am a bad mother."
There are so many mothers who brand themselves with that label.
But that belief is what

hurts you the most.
What I convey in my sessions is

not to change the events, but to change the premise.
"I am a bad mother"

instead of
"I am a mother who cares about her child."
"I did my best today too."
"I am a kind mother."
It's okay if you can't believe it at first.

Little by little, keep saying those words to yourself.
Children

are not looking for a perfect mother.
They grow up watching a mother who can apologize when she makes a mistake.
And

a mother who can be kind to herself.
If right now

"Maybe I'm a bad mother."
If you are thinking that,
why not let go of those words just for today?
And please try saying just one thing to your child.

"I scolded you too much earlier. I'm really sorry."
Those words

will save your child's heart,
and should also set your own heart free, little by little.
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