Wait, 'Hitotarashi' actually had a positive meaning!? 😲

Hello, this is Satsumibi.

Oh, that's right.

Have you ever heard the term 'Hitotarashi'?

In the past, it was written with the characters 'Hitotarashi' (deceiver) and

it seemed to carry meanings like 'to deceive' or 'to cheat', but...

Surprisingly, nowadays

is here! 😊

Well, just hearing the word, it might not sound very positive, but it seems the good image spread because the author Ryotaro Shiba used this term frequently in his depiction of Toyotomi Hideyoshi's life.

That means

Toyotomi Hideyoshi wasn't someone who pressured others like Oda Nobunaga, but rather a 'genius of Hitotarashi' who was loved by many, it seems. 😄

Oh, and now it also seems to have the meaning of 'charming people' (literally 'melting people'). 😳

I see...

In a previous article, I posted content about 'People are drawn to people' ↓

For example, rather than their position, people are

Most people are drawn to people like that ✨✨

However...

I feel like if someone in a position to teach or lead others only does this, something is missing, don't you think? 🤔

Certainly, listening and being there for people is important, but actually, just leaving it at that is no good!!

There is always a flow to people

Once you reach a certain point, you enter the next phase ✨✨

For example, when a new employee has lost their confidence, it is important to listen and be there for them, but it is also important to pull them back up afterwards 😊

If you stay by their side forever, it means that neither of you can move from that point, and the flow stops

This is true for everyone, but

People tend to seek quality from the start, but that is a mistake in itself; actually,keeping your "promises"is the most important thing, apparently 💦

Simply put, just do what you need to do!!

Even if you are inferior to someone else😊

Yeah, that's right, someone once said...

Many people who fail get the priority of quality, quantity, and speed wrong💦

In other words, they pursue quality so much that their minds and hands stop, and they can't finish by the promised time~

Originally, the first phase is

speed (promised time), then quantity, and quality is secondary or tertiary😁

However

At first, set this promised time to be slow

If you keep using that "charmer" act from earlier, it might be hard to move on to the next phase💦

Wow, I'm sounding super leader-like right now, aren't I?😅

But it's true, I swear~

The point is, balance is important!

If you're always acting like a good person saying "It's okay, it's okay" or "It's fine, it's fine," you don't have time to suddenly change your character and start getting angry when you're backed into a corner~😩

You must always listen, show empathy, then prepare a flow that suits that person, set a time, and get ready to move on to the next phase.

You won't be able to do it perfectly from the start

Don't forget to drill this into your head😅

We understand in our heads that time is limited, but in reality, we often act as if it were infinite💦

By understanding that time is not just your own, but that the other person's time is also moving forward simultaneously, you will see a different world✨✨

By clearly indicating where to head next, it becomes easier for the other person to grasp the objective too😄

At times like that

I think the Hitotarashi that you catch a glimpse of becomes even more effective.

Oh, that's right.

Conversely, what makes you not a 'Hitotarashi' is constantly changing your persona.😅

You probably have someone like that around you, don't you?

Someone who suddenly turns negative and acts like an attention seeker trying to get both superiors and subordinates to cater to their mood😱

This is something that people in teaching positions, in particular, should absolutely never do💦

It makes the atmosphere incredibly gloomy!

Especially in real-life settings, it can lower morale or make people feel unnecessarily cautious, making it hard to move forward, and as a result, you end up wasting the other person's time too 😅

People tend to, well, form an image...

Ah, I used a slightly cool-sounding word there, but I mean an image; by imagining things,you end up attaching an image to them💦

Since that can sometimes take on a life of its own, I want to become a 'Hitotarashi' who can clearly show others the image of myself at work, in my private life, and when I am supporting and lifting others up

a 'charmer'

that's what I want to be! ✨✨

However...

Toyotomi Hideyoshi had a great smile, but I wonder if he was also good at being dependent on others? 🙄

Well, it just goes to show that when you can't do something, it's important to rely on others!

The end

Today's summary

'How well can you showcase your charm'is the point

Usually, it's best to always be smiling and pleasant, but depending on the situation, you also need that other charm: strength ✨✨

As a way to lift people up

It's not just about flattery; it's important to be able to use the strength to lift the person themselves up when the situation calls for it, right? 😄

So, does that mean being able to 'hitotarashi' also involves setting goals for others so that they can keep the promise of the time you've decided on?

Ahhhhhhh

I want to be Toyotomi Hideyoshi~ 💦

Ah, well, I don't actually know if that's how he did it, though...

I empathize! I've had that happen too! If you found this insightful,
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