🔑 The 3rd Door | Is it really true that 'I have no value'?

📖 Reading time: approx. 10 minutes
✍️ Exercise: approx. 10-15 minutes
📅 Updated: July 30, 2026

🌿 Introduction

Thank you for choosing to spend this time here today.

This is not a place

to look for someone else's correct answer.

It is a time to cherish

how you personally feel.

It is okay if you don't try hard to change anything.

It is okay if you don't rush to find an answer.

First,

let's return to the 'here and now' for just a moment.

🌬 The here and now is everything

Sit in a comfortable position.

You can close your eyes slowly,

or it is fine if you don't.

First,

let's try exhaling for a long time.

Feel the tension in your body

gradually fading away.

Inhale through your nose for 4 seconds.

Hold for 2 seconds.

Take 8 seconds to,

exhale slowly.

Repeat this breathing 3 times.

Once your breathing is steady,

gently place your hand on your chest.

And then,

slowly, 3 times,

try chanting this.

'The here and now is everything.'

'The here and now is everything.'

'The here and now is everything.'

Just for a little while,

spend some quiet time.

Right now,

what are you feeling?

Let's continue to cherish,

how you feel today as well.

In the previous door,

what I thought was an 'ideal',

Perhaps it was actually someone else's ideal.

I reflected on such things.

Today,

I will listen closely to the voice of my heart,

that lies even deeper within.

🌿 "I have no value"

Have you ever,

whispered these words in your heart?

It wasn't that someone else said it to you.

But,

when you failed.

When you compared yourself to others.

When you couldn't do things well.

When you couldn't be of use.

Suddenly,

it echoes in your heart.

"I have no value."

Every time you hear that voice,

you try to work even harder.

You try to be even more useful.

You try to get more recognition.

But,

no matter how hard you try,

that voice never goes away.

If,

you have had that experience,

today, instead of trying to silence that voice,

let's go and meet it.

And,

today as well,

I will leave you with just one question.

"Is that really true?"

🌿 Has that voice been with you since you were born?

A baby,

cannot do anything.

They cannot walk,

they cannot speak,

and they cannot work.

Even so,

someone holds them.

Someone smiles at you.

Someone says,

'Thank you for being born.'

they say.

Back then, were you

precious because you could do something?

Or were you

precious just because you were there?

Then, when did we

start to feel that

'I have value because I can do things.'

'I have no value because I cannot.'

When did we start feeling that way?

🌿 The heart learns in order to survive

The day you were praised.

The day you were scolded.

The day you met expectations.

The day you couldn't.

Through each and every one of those events,

we

I will learn little by little.

If I work hard, I will be recognized.

If I endure, I won't be disliked.

If I meet expectations, I will be loved.

That lesson,

might have been necessary to protect you back then.

So,

the part of you that feels 'I have no value',

it is okay not to blame yourself.

For that way of feeling too,

there is a proper reason.

✍️ Today's Work

Today,

is not a task to prove your 'value'.

It is a time to gently look at,

when your heart,

began to feel that way.

Please prepare a notebook.

STEP 1 | Write down the voice of your heart

In the middle of the notebook,

Please try writing it a little large.

"I have no value."

Once you have written it,

without erasing it,

quietly gaze at those words.

It is okay not to rewrite them immediately.

"That's not true."

It is okay not to encourage yourself by saying that.

Just,

while looking at those words,

what is your body feeling?

My chest feels tight.

My throat feels constricted.

My stomach feels heavy.

I feel nothing.

Any way of feeling is fine.

That is,

who you are right now.

STEP 2 | Try to recall the event when you first felt that way

While staring at those words,

I ask you quietly.

When did I

start feeling that way?

Do you have your oldest memory of it?

Was it at school?

Was it at home?

Was it with friends?

Was it at work?

Please try writing down

just one of those events in a notebook.

And then,

what were you

actually feeling back then?

You wanted to be acknowledged.

You were sad.

You were frustrated.

You were lonely.

You wanted to feel safe.

Please try writing down

those feelings as well.

STEP 3 | "Is that really true?"

Once more,

look at your notebook.

"I have no value."

Below that,

leave a little space,

and try writing this down.

"Is that really true?"

You don't have to try to write an answer right away.

But,

while staring at that question,

once again,

try reading the event you wrote down at the beginning.

Did you really have no value,

back then?

Or,

was it that you had no choice but to feel that way?

Whatever comes to mind,

try writing it down just as it is.

STEP 4 | To the me of that time

Finally,

To your past self,

as if writing a letter,

let's send just one message.

It was painful, wasn't it?

You were actually lonely, weren't you?

You've been trying your best all this time, haven't you?

Thank you for making it this far.

Those words,

reach your past self,

and they reach your present self, too.

🌙 What today's door wanted to convey

'I have no value.'

There was a reason,

for feeling that way.

So,

even if you can't,

'I have value.'

feel that way right today, it's okay.

But,

There is just one thing,

I want you to remember.

Today,

what you faced,

was not your value.

It was how you feel.

The fact that you noticed those feelings,

is,

the biggest step you took today.

🌱 The week starting today

This week,

if,

you hear voices saying,

'I am no good.'

'I wasn't helpful.'

'I have no value.'

you don't have to try to change them.

Just,

in your heart,

try asking yourself gently.

Is it really true?

And,

if you have time,

please open a notebook,

and write down just one line about that event,

and how you felt at that moment.

Writing in a notebook

is not about finding an answer.

It is about making

the way you feel visible.

That small accumulation

will,

little by little,

help you cultivate the ability to notice your own feelings even in daily life.

🌱 Next, to the fourth door

At the next door,

'This is how it should be.'

We will look at those rules of the heart

together.

Today, too,

To you,

I have one question for you.

"Is that really true?"

To that question,

there is no right answer.

That is precisely why,

the way you feel,

please continue to cherish it.

Well then,

I will see you at the fourth door.

With heartfelt gratitude.

Yukiyo 🌿