Advice on Parenting: Mood During Pickup

As a parent, you want to keep your child in the best possible mood when picking them up from daycare.

This time, I'd like to discuss the concept of sharing silence.

In short, it is

conversation (questions) < sharing silence (letting them start talking on their own)

.

First, regarding the child's brain immediately after pickup. From a neuroscience perspective, group life uses the social brain, and it can be said that they are quite exhausted. For someone who is socially exhausted like that, questions are counterproductive.

"What did you do today?"
"Did you have fun?"
"Who did you play with?"

I'm sure they will answer, but at this point, the child's brain has already entered answering mode.

Instead of that,

"You're sweating today."
"You have paint on your hands."
"You were smiling when I came to pick you up."

By conveying these observations (facts), the child can just receive the information, which makes it easier on their brain. And just by being together, they enter

comfort mode. It's okay if a little silence occurs here. You just need to wait. This is because as their brain gradually relaxes, they will

relax, and after that, they will start talking on their own.

Out of love, you want to talk to them. You want to know things. You want to talk a lot and have a fun, happy trip home. That is a parent's nature, but for a child who has worked hard in group life, it is also important to make the time in front of their family, where they can finally catch their breath, a

comfortable place

.

A little bit of awareness should make a difference.

I hope this is helpful.