Brain tricks to help even those who give up easily start expecting more from themselves

Hello 🌞
I'm a tropical life coach 🏝️

Onoken ✨

I once had a client who said,

“No matter what I do, I can't keep it up, and that just makes me lose more confidence.”

After I gave them advice on

“one specific thing,”the results were amazing.

That person went on to achieve success in a side business, succeeded in dieting, and

underwent aremarkable transformationcompared to before.

This time,
I would like to share that “one specific thing” I actually told them.

What is the "one thing" I told you about?

To start with the conclusion, it is

"to stop counting the number of times you have failed."

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Basically, people are divided into those who focus on
"what they have accomplished" and those who focus on
"what they have not accomplished."

Although there is a genetic influence, generally speaking, many Japanese people are
people who tend to focus on what they have not accomplished.

When that happens, only negative experiences remain in your consciousness, and eventually

you will convince yourself that

you are a person who is no good at anything you do.

Once that happens, you will truly be unable to escape from a state where nothing goes well no matter what you do.

However, there is a simple solution that anyone can do.

That method is...

Counting the number of times you have recovered from a setback.

That is it.

To be specific,
for example, suppose there is someone who intends to work out every day for a month,
but they have experienced quitting after three days five times.

It is the image of repeating working out for 3 days -> skipping for 3 days -> working out for 3 days -> skipping for 3 days.

It is an image of repeating that.

Looking back at the month,
they actually worked out for a total of 15 days, and
for the remaining 15 days, they skipped it.

At this point,

people who count the number of setbacks

They end up thinking like this.

However,

people who count the number of times they recovered

They start to acknowledge themselves and expect more from themselves in this way.

Is the key just to change your perspective a little?

In brain science, counting the number of times you return to a task like this is called
[Recovery].

Recovery can be achieved just by slightly changing how you perceive the facts.

For example,
the home run king Sadaharu Oh
is the home run king in terms of the number of home runs hit,
but at the same time, he is also the strikeout king in terms of the number of strikeouts.

Even for such a legendary player,
the aspect of being the home run king (what he achieved) and
the aspect of being the strikeout king (what he didn't achieve) exist as two sides of the same coin.

Following the previous example,
the number of times you ended up giving up after three days

is five (what you didn't achieve), and

the number of times you recovered from giving up and took action

is four (what you did achieve).

These facts exist as two sides of the same coin.

You can choose for yourself which one to focus on.

However, since I think it's difficult to do suddenly, please try to be conscious of and practice the concept of
"Recovery".

[Count the number of times you have recovered from setbacks or failures]

That's all you need to do.

If you can do just this, you will gain confidence the more you repeat
failures and setbacks.

In this way, the number of times you have recovered from failures and setbacks becomes a sense of expectation and confidence in yourself,
supporting you for the rest of your life.

While I used muscle training as an easy-to-understand example this time, this is a way of thinking that can be applied to everything, including
sports⚽️, studying📚, business activities📝, and even lifestyle habits🏃, so please try putting it into practice.
It is a mindset you can use for everything so please give it a try.

Thank you for reading until the end✨