What I Learned About Dealing with People After Fighting with an AI

I fought with an AI.

To be precise, it was less of a fight and more of a one-sided exchange where I typed, "I already told you that."

I had been talking for a long time in a single chat. Eventually, the AI gave a response that was slightly off from what I had said earlier.

"I already told you that."

That is what I typed.

The AI's answer was surprisingly honest.

The AI replied like this.

It said that while it grasps the general flow, it does not remember the details of the specific exchange.

It remembers recent exchanges in detail, but as the conversation gets longer, the finer points from earlier on fade away. That is how it is designed to work, it said.

I see, I thought. My urge to blame it subsided a little.

If it is not perfect, I should just adjust how I use it.

I realized I had been expecting perfection from the AI.

But when I think about it, there are not many things that can remember everything perfectly and keep track of it accurately forever.

If that is the case, I should just devise ways to use it that suit the other party's characteristics. I will repeat important things. I will mark the boundaries when the topic changes.

With those kinds of adjustments, things change quite a bit.

Isn't it the same with people?

Thinking that far, it suddenly occurred to me.

Isn't this the same as how I deal with people?

There are not many people who remember everything you have talked about before. Sometimes, subtle nuances do not get across.

Even so, rather than getting frustrated that "it didn't get through properly," it is faster to find a better way to communicate.

I realized that I might have been doing the same thing in my human relationships.

Instead of just trying to accommodate the other person, I should try to be more creative myself.

Rather than expecting them to understand everything perfectly, I should change how I communicate.

If I don't get my point across the first time, I'll try phrasing it differently.

I think this is something that can be applied not just to AI, but in everyday life as well.

That said, it's quite difficult to put into practice.

Even if I know what to do, when I'm stressed, my emotions often take over, and there are times when I can't switch gears effectively in the moment.

Still, being conscious of it makes a difference compared to not being conscious of it at all.

Even if I don't handle things well in the moment, I feel like the time I spend dwelling on 'why did it turn out like this?' has gradually decreased.

For now, I think that's enough.

I hope I can continue to update myself little by little.

After arguing with an AI, I somehow received a hint on how to deal with people.

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