A second-year athletic salesman who has "given up" on reaching 180cm
My height is 168cm.
My weight is 65kg when I'm in good shape.
This is just "how it is", isn't it?
I feel like I'm not good at using this "how it is".
I feel like it's an escape.
I failed,
I didn't reach it,
I couldn't do it,
"how it is" isn't enough to settle it.
Until that result comes out, I am definitely
desperately spending my time to succeed.
"how it is" What happens if you settle with that?
If I do that, I feel like I'm denying the self that worked so hard.
If I do that, I feel like I'm admitting that I'll never be able to do it.
(I tried using 'never' twice)
A word that admits defeat and doesn't try to move on to the next thing—
that is my perception of the phrase
"how it is"
.
However, people who live "well" in this world
are good at distinguishing the parts that are just how they are.
That is what the profile at the beginning means.
My height is 168cm.
My weight is 65kg when I'm in good shape.
I can't do anything about this.
(Wait, can I do something about the weight?)
Setting aside the details,
"how it is" parts, might there be
a lot of them?
Moreover, if I knew that,
wouldn't I be able to live more easily?
I thought about that today.
(To be precise, I've been thinking about it for a while, but
I'm organizing it into words today.)
Setting aside the details,
for now,
"things that are just how they are" I want to try looking for.
Before that, I want to organize the definition.
For me, it's this:
"Things that cannot be helped by your own power"
The antonym for that
"things that can be managed by your own power"
is what I will make it.
First of all,"height"
Height is determined at birth, and no matter how much you want to grow or shrink, it's impossible.
Wishes don't work here.
It's better to think about how to fight using it as a weapon.
By the way, when I played soccer,
I often faced opponents with bigger bodies than mine.
Even so, you can win. There are ways to win.
Rather than wishing to be taller,
it seems better to think about how to win at your current height.
That's the kind of thing I want to say today.
What else is there?
・24 hours a day
・Place of birth
・Weather
・Price of beer at an izakaya
・Train schedules
・Company products
・Company history
・Other people's judgments
and so on.
There seem to be many more,
but I think all of them are
"things beyond your control."
It's tiring to feel stressed about these.
Rather than hoping for change here,
"things you can do something about"
it seems more efficient to change those.
Instead of stuffing your face with food thinking you might reach 180cm,
what should you master to win at 168cm?
・Moving faster and more often ・Technique ・How to position your body
It's more like, you should focus on these things.
I don't really want to talk about people around me, but
this is a trait of people who annoy me.
"Boasting about parts that aren't thanks to you"
To be honest, I don't like this.
It's the same when working;
you should only feel stress
about the parts you can change.
From here on, I'm lecturing my current self.
Complaining about the assigned area or
saying the list is bad...
Shut up!!
Are you trying to find a way to win in that area?
Are you working without slacking off for even a second to improve the list?
"Things you can do something about"
are infinite.
I have never once done everything I could.
Don't blame others.
"It can't be helped"Accept that.
"It can be helped"Handle that yourself.
I was helped by today's note.
I feel like it stopped me from sliding into a slump.
Alright, I'll make up for it tomorrow.