You do not need to stand on the same level as those who say unpleasant things to you

[FP Psychologist's Deep Dive Today]
"Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him" is a verse from Proverbs 26:4 of the Old Testament. This book of wisdom, attributed to King Solomon and others, teaches the wisdom of avoiding futile arguments by not descending to the same emotional level when dealing with foolish people. It is paired with the following verse, 26:5, and serves as a practical proverb that teaches balanced responses depending on the situation. (I will share verse 26:5 another day.)

This wisdom also connects to modern communication techniques, such as "Don't tell others things that can't be fixed in 5 seconds" and "It is easy to hurt someone's feelings, but difficult to change them."

The other day, an older person told me, "You should put a 🎀 on your nails," and another said, "Make your eyeshadow 👁️ darker" (these were different people), and although I felt annoyed inside,
I immediately brushed it off by saying, "That is your opinion (smile)."

I won't call their comments foolish, but their own heavy makeup was not to my taste 🤭

While I felt it was a bit unsolicited, I was able to let it slide with a smile without arguing back, thanks to this proverb 🤭
I respect your freedom of expression, but
I want you to respect my freedom as well.
Unsolicited advice is unnecessary!

✅ FP Perspective
Pointless arguments increase time and mental opportunity costs, which negatively impacts asset management and the maintenance of family relationships. In situations where opinions are likely to clash, such as inheritance or financial disputes, it is wise to remain calm and utilize facts and experts rather than getting caught up in the other party's emotions. By avoiding emotional exhaustion and focusing your energy on productive planning and long-term financial strategies, you can enhance your "power to protect and build." Clarifying your priorities leads to true financial stability.

✅ Psychologist Perspective
Arguments stimulate the other party's defense mechanisms, increase mutual stress, and easily lead to deteriorating relationships. This biblical wisdom demonstrates the importance of drawing boundaries to protect oneself. By not descending to the level of folly and by practicing selective listening and maintaining an appropriate sense of distance, you can protect your psychological energy and maintain inner peace. Avoiding projection and emotional entanglement, and focusing on meaningful dialogue, fosters mental resilience and healthy human relationships.

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