You don't have to blame yourself anymore.

When you find yourself comparing yourself to others.

When you find yourself envying others.

When you find yourself feeling jealous of others.

When you find yourself blaming yourself.

Why can't I do this...
Why did it turn out like this...
I'm such a failure...
I can't do it with this personality...
I have no choice but to do this...
I can only do this...

When you are swallowed by such thoughts and feel distressed.

I want you to try saying this.

Why -> How can I
Like this -> Because of this
Only -> If


Why can't I do this?
↓
How can I become able to do it?
How can I succeed just as I am, even if I can't do it?
How can I change/overcome this?


I'm such a useless person...
↓
What can I do because I am useless?
What can I convey because I am like this?
Because I am like this/Because of this personality
Because of this environment/Because of this situation


I only have this, I can only do this...
↓
I can do this!
I can at least do this!
I can do it if I do it this way!

Change your perspective, utilize it/overcome it

Things can look good or bad.

Think about the parts of your (personality/actions/appearance/attitude) that look good and the parts that look bad.

ex. Being influenced by others


(Bad) Easily swayed by others' opinions
↑
Easily influenced by others
↓
(Good) Easily incorporates others' opinions

Try to look at things in a positive way rather than a negative one.

I'm no good because I'm easily swayed by others...
↓
I'm someone who easily incorporates others' opinions!
→ So what?
→ How can I?
→ I can do it if I incorporate it!

By reframing things,

Move forward/overcome it

It's okay if you can't do it right away.
It's okay if you can't do it well.

You just need to change your mindset little by little.

Just by reading this article, you have already started to change.

It will be okay.