Don't chase those who leave, don't reject those who come

In work, I understand that people are trying hard, and I know it's impressive.

However, when that comes across too strongly, it becomes harder to feel any appeal.

One thing I still can't understand is telemarketing.

Sales calls are usually just people reading from a script.
You can really feel that they are being forced to say it, and they seem so desperate that I gradually start to feel sorry for them.
The one-sided way they talk is also bothersome.

Even if they use that approach, instead of listening, it just makes me want to hang up the phone.

Most of the time, they are so desperate for sales that they don't even realize the customer is giving them annoyed responses.
Perhaps they are being pressured from behind.

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It reminds me of my time in the apparel industry.
We were instructed to follow customers around and serve them as soon as they entered the store to sell clothes.
The pressure from my boss was scary.

Because of the pressure and desperation, it would come across to the customers and everything would backfire.
There was even a time when I was forced to write a reflection journal every day, and I'm really sorry to say this, but that was meaningless.

I can understand now that the management was trying hard to make improvements by doing things that way.

But at the time, I wasn't thinking about anything, and it wasn't fun at all.

Naturally, it didn't sell. There was no way it would sell.

Who would want to buy clothes from someone who doesn't look like they are enjoying themselves?
Who would want to buy from someone who is desperate to sell, with dollar signs in their eyes?

I don't think I was really thinking about the customers at all.
What was their purpose for coming to the store? Maybe they just walked in without any purpose.

Without even thinking about things like that, I was just working in fear of my boss.
And I couldn't understand the feelings of the other veteran staff members who were burning with competitive spirit.
I realized once again around this time that I really hate competing with people.
I've always been bad with groups of women, so that made it even worse, and I couldn't stand it.

I'm sure there were stores that weren't like that.
But when I thought about whether I wanted to keep doing it in the future, I realized I didn't, so I quit.

Well, those things happened, but regardless of the industry, that experience is being put to use in my work now.

It's because it was a harsh environment that I understand these things.

And what I learned from this past experience is

When people are chased, they want to run away.

Therefore, in my life, I live by the stance of not chasing those who leave and not rejecting those who come.

I do not try to hold back those who are leaving.

Conversely, I strive to do my best for those who come to me.
I want to cherish those who need me and those who treat me with sincerity.
I basically maintain that stance.

I try to think that people who stay connected to me are meant to be in my life.
So, if they leave, I don't get depressed.
I try to accept it as it is, thinking it just wasn't meant to be.

Where there are partings, there are always meetings.
It's an old saying.

I think being natural rather than putting on a strange act is more comfortable, which makes people think, 'I want to buy here!' or 'I want to ask this person!'

At the very least, that's how I feel when I'm the one buying products or services.

Also, I often choose based on the 'person' rather than the content of the product or service.

Anyway, don't rush.
There aren't many people who can get results that quickly.

I don't know if this will be helpful, but I hope it provides some hints if there is anyone struggling with their work or similar things☆

I will also continue to do my best without letting my guard down!!