"When in doubt, choose the 'fun' option." Tips for taking care of yourself and lightening your heart

Thursday evening.
I can finally see the end of the week,
and I feel a little relieved.

Work, housework, childcare.
To everyone (including me!) who is running around
from early morning until late at night every day without a moment to breathe,
thank you for your hard work today.

Take one deep breath. (Phew...)

As people with HSP traits,
we sensitively perceive the atmosphere around us and the emotions of others,
and I wonder if we are constantly thinking about
"how not to inconvenience anyone" or "what is the best way to act
so that I don't hurt others and don't get hurt myself"...

While working full-time and managing a household,
I'm sure you are working your mind and heart to the fullest
to make the "right choices."

However,
when I'm struggling with choices and my heart feels like it's wearing thin,
I try to stop for a moment
and ask myself this.

"Instead of which one is right, which one is more fun?"

Today, I would like to share a story about "choices"
that I keep in mind,
which makes my heart feel warm.

1. Are you feeling suffocated by choosing "right" too often?

The daily life of a working mother is a series of choices.
"What should I have them wear in this temperature?"
"Is this everything they need?"
"What time should we have dinner?"
"Scheduling the drop-offs and pick-ups for lessons down to the minute"
...

In times like these,
the more serious and hardworking a person is,
the more they tend to choose based on criteria like
"I should do this"
or "this is the right thing to do."

A correct choice
might indeed avoid making waves.
But perhaps,
your heart is feeling a little lonely,
asking, "Are you really satisfied with that?"

If you only use "the right thing" as your standard,
you end up suppressing your true feelings,
and before you know it, your heart will feel dry and parched.

2. When in doubt, try trusting your own "fun"

If you are torn between two choices,
I try to close my eyes for a moment
and imagine myself having chosen each future.

My body feels lighter,
I feel a little excited,
or the corners of my mouth lift naturally.
That is your own "fun" side.

Choosing the "fun" side instead of the "right" side
is never selfish or irresponsible.

It is
a very gentle and precious step
to carefully scoop up the small voice inside you
and cherish yourself.

3. Your intuition is your greatest ally in protecting yourself

We HSPs
have an exceptionally rich set of sensors.

Those sensors
not only sensitively catch stress,
but are also excellent at intuitively finding
"things that are comfortable for me."

"Somehow, this feels more comfortable."
"I can't explain why, but I'm drawn to this."

Such hunches and intuitions
know the direction that will make us happy
better than any logical argument we could overthink.

Please,
try to trust those "somehows" that well up from within you
a little more.

4. Choosing what is "fun" ends up being the best answer

Interestingly,
the path chosen based on what is "fun"
almost always ends up being the "perfect answer"
for you.

This is because
when you feel "happy" or "comfortable,"
space is created in your heart.

That space
becomes a gentle gaze toward your children or partner,
and leads to flexible ideas at work.

For a mom to be in a good mood
and laughing happily.

There is surely nothing
more "right" for a family
than that.

Our smiles are precious! Haha

When in doubt, choose the fun path.

Starting today, with that as your charm,
why not relax your shoulders a little and take a deep breath?

May your tomorrow be filled
with even gentler, more pleasant light.

Thank you for your hard work today, too.
Have a favorite drink,
and let's take a little break together.