HSPs and INFJs can start walking toward happiness by learning how to loosen the 'perfectionism' that hinders it

I have finally been able to come to terms with my perfectionism.

When I was young, I truly suffered because of this perfectionism.

For example, even when watching a movie I had rented at home, I would watch it with such tension that I felt I 'must not miss' a single word, and if a family member made a noise and I couldn't hear a line, I would always rewind it to make sure I heard it.

It also affected my relationships; if someone broke my rules even slightly, I would think, 'I don't want to see you anymore,' and it was easy for me to steer toward extremes.

After experiencing various setbacks and reading books, I learned the importance of moderation.

I learned that the world is not black and white, but that most things exist in the gray zone in between, and that it is important to know how to come to terms with that.

I have come to admire people with a sense of lightness like Tamori, George Tokoro, and Junji Takada, and I am starting to think that being 'just the right amount of careless' is good.

Making my catchphrases 'it can't be helped' and 'that's fine' and adopting an attitude of acceptance and tolerance has made life easier.

The causes of perfectionism are likely various, such as fastidiousness, lack of self-confidence, or arrogance.

However, it is important to understand those qualities in yourself and find a reasonable middle ground.

At the root of many 'unforgivable' feelings lies an aggression where you cannot forgive yourself.

If that is projected outward, it is expressed in the form of blaming others.

Self-blame and blaming others have the same root.

The only difference is 'which way you point the blade you are holding.'

The ideal is to let go of the blade and live your life without holding it.

I am now living my life while being conscious of being 'just the right amount of careless' rather than being a perfectionist.

That is why my days are fun.

Perfection is probably not fun.

Because it is a way of thinking that seeks correctness.