The Resurgence of Resolved Issues Is Caused by the XXXX Within You

I once blushed while taking stock of my life in order to move on to the next stage of my career.

Every time I was scolded by an elder, I would sulk and blame others. I had discovered my own embarrassing habit.

I didn't want to face this habit and kept justifying it, but as I grew older, I realized that repeating such behavior was even more embarrassing.

Now that I understood my flaws, I had to do something about them. I realized that my childish personality was the root cause of my life stagnating.

First, I left my parents' home and started living alone. I had to earn my own living expenses. There was no longer any time to blame others.

Even so, I would occasionally sulk, choose the role of a victim, and avoid moving forward.

After finally overcoming my own issues, junior male colleagues who shared the same traits as my past self began to appear one after another in different forms.

When I scolded them, they would sulk, and I would hear that they were badmouthing me behind my back. When I called them out and warned them, they would glare at me with hatred and pout, saying, 'What about you? Are you doing everything perfectly?' And so, a negative spiral of questioning them and becoming emotional myself would ensue.

It must have been my shadow attracting them.

In other words, I hadn't completely resolved the issue yet.

While agonizing and struggling with these juniors, I accepted that this was also my responsibility. Then, I was gradually able to let go of the pain.

To my surprise, the juniors' attitudes also began to change for the better. Surely, by me finding the courage to change, they changed as well.

When you feel unable to forgive someone, it is a great opportunity to deepen your self-understanding.

Why can't you forgive them? It must be because there is still a 'knot' remaining inside you.

When you can loosen the seed that has hardened inside you, the feeling of 'unforgiveness' will disappear.

Try to view your agony and suffering as the problem making its final struggle within you.

Once you fully accept it, the hardened resentment will gently fade away.

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