The desire for approval starts with 'you approving yourself.' Why does the heart grow healthily in this order?

The heart grows healthily when the desire for approval starts with 'you approving yourself.'

Perhaps no other term is used with as negative a nuance as the 'desire for approval.'

It is often used in a mocking context, such as 'He is a slave to his desire for approval' or 'It's painful how full of a desire for approval they are.'

However, seeking to have your existence acknowledged is an important thing.

Trying desperately to be approved by someone else without having your own core is somewhat unhealthy, as it is based on an 'other-centered' perspective.

If there is a hole in the cup of your heart, no matter how much water you pour in, it will flow out in an instant.

Addiction to an other-centered desire for approval is exactly this.

So, what should you do?

First, you must acknowledge yourself. This is where it all begins.

There is no problem at all if you can receive approval from others while being in a state where you have firmly accepted and acknowledged yourself.

There is an order to things.

If you have gotten the order wrong, go back to the starting line.

It is not too late to start now.

I will state this clearly at the end.

You have value just by existing.

If you can realize that, your life will take a turn for the better.

First, try accepting your own value.