Being lectured by my mother at this age

My mother has the strongest mentality,
and even if she gets down for a moment, she bounces back quickly.

When it comes to other people's situations like "I have depression" or "I have diabetes,"
"That's too bad. Take care of yourself."

According to my mother, as long as you are alive,
it would be strange not to get sick.
She has no empathy or resonance, just accepts the facts and offers sympathy.

My mother's sensitivity is average, but empathy is a different matter.
She isn't the type to get emotionally involved in books, dramas, or movies,
but rather the type to pick out the structure or memorable lines
and write them down in a notebook.

Because she thinks what she likes is good,
she doesn't seek validation from family or others.

Her appearance is pale, so she looks frail,
but she benefits from her demeanor and way of speaking,
which makes people feel like they have to protect her or she'll get hurt.

However, my mother has a maverick mentality,
her emotional ups and downs are flat,
and even when she was stalked in the past, she didn't worry deeply,
but sought a rational solution, went to the person's house,
and had the personality to clearly say "This is annoying" and leave.

And even if my grandfather criticized her for being dangerous,
she took his opinion as just an opinion,
and thinking it was a waste of time to argue with him,
she didn't seem to think even her own father was worth dealing with.

I think she prioritized finding a solution.

My mother is positive and optimistic about herself,
and so as not to extinguish her own fire,
she once said that hardship is an essential element of living,
and nourishment to become wiser.

My great-grandmother passed away in her 20s,
and until my grandmother moved to Yamaguchi Prefecture,
she was raised by her father and housekeepers.

I suspect that my grandmother poured into her children
what she had wanted her own mother to do for her.

I think it was Freud, but
apparently, because she was loved by her parents, she was full of confidence.
My mother is the same, and my uncles also have strong mentalities,
so it's natural that they grew up with the strongest mentalities.

However, according to my younger brother and me,
even though we were raised being loved quite a bit,
only my brother has the same mental strength as our parents,
and I am the only one who couldn't escape from a state of emotional starvation,
so why did my mentality melt?

Last night, I said to my mother,
"I don't understand people's feelings, my relationships fall apart,
and it's painful and hard to live." I vented my weakness.

My mother said to me,
"There's no way you can understand other people's feelings."
"What do you think your mouth and words are for?"

If you could understand other people's feelings,
there would be no misunderstandings or fights.

The way my mother sees me,
I seem to be hoping that others will guess how I feel,
this passive attitude is arrogant toward others,
and she asked if I don't think about how to face others
and how to assert myself through constructive dialogue.

If you stay silent, it won't be conveyed.
Despite that, you just make snide remarks, sarcasm, and complain.
You should think about where any good will come from.

Wanting people to notice or wanting them to guess
is the same as not taking any action at all.

Why don't you notice?
Momo-chan, you look like you're drunk on your own unhappiness.

She cut me down like that, her own daughter, but
honestly, when I look at other people, I think the same thing as my mother.

It's easy to whine to those around you and have them accommodate you, isn't it?
And it's easy to just blame everything on others.

🌸Hello, Hii-san🌸
Thank you for your help.
This is about the reality of the 'psychopath' living in my house
and my confrontation with my mentally unstable daughter, lol.

Thank you, Hii-san.