The day I felt 'I'm being read, but not reaching anyone.' A record of my 7th month on note🍀

💡People tell me, "That was a good article."
I get 'likes' from people saying, "I resonated with this."

But something is missing.

I felt a sense of unease somewhere in the feeling of
“being read, but that's it”──


Hello, this is Yorimaru.

This article is part of my 'to my self from one month ago' series,
and it is a record of my 7th month.

Being read. Even so, reality doesn't change.
Everyone, are you holding onto that kind of frustration?

Now, I can properly convey this
to my self from one month ago.

This time, focusing on 'reaching people',
I have written about the step I took forward.

🍀 'I don't want to just be read' - Toward the feelings beyond that

"Being read" is something I
was satisfied with for a time.

Having people resonate with me or tell me "that was a good story" is truly a happy thing.

But what I want to aim for is
an article that changes the actions of people carrying worries.

"The ideal is to change the reader's actions."
I realized that.

🍀 The choice to be honest about 'what is sought'

"What I want to write" and "what is sought."
"A good story" and "a story that hits home."

There was a time I felt frustrated between those two.

What I wanted to write about was
realizations, growth, and understanding myself.

That is why my current followers resonate with that content.

But what is actually being bought the most is
articles that answer specific worries,
like dating someone younger or workplace romance.

I was struck by the reality that people were reaching me through search.

People right in the middle of their worries
were choosing my articles.

🍀 'Who is saying it' was more important than I thought

To briefly explain my background,
44 years old / depressed / divorced / 3 children / bankrupt.

I am the opposite of what society calls "ideal."

Even so, I have a "story of reversal with complications"
of remarrying a woman 18 years my junior.

"What kind of article does a person with that background write?"
People became interested.

What hit home in my early articles was
not the know-how or writing ability, but
the human being that is meI realized that.

In other words, "who is saying it" was
more important than I had thought.


By the way, one of the triggers for writing this article was
an article by Melt & Create
themed around "re-commenting."

When I also left a comment,

"If you had a catchy phrase that makes people think 'Yorimaru-san equals this!', it might reach more people," they said.

…I received that hint.

That remained in my heart, and
it became a trigger for me to think deeply again about "what does it mean to reach someone?"

If you are interested, please read it🍀

🔗 Article here

🍀 Real romantic worries are a strength

I myself have worried a lot about romance.

・Dating older women from my 20s until my first marriage
・After divorce, dating younger women and workplace romances
・And remarriage, and my relationship with my wife's family

Including the times things didn't go well,
I have had many experiences.

That is exactly why I can write with real words.

What was reaching me through search
was precisely these articles about "romantic worries."

🍀 Leveraging strengths to redesign the balance of how I reach people

Instead of "changing," I will align with the form that the current me is being sought for.

I have learned that romance themes leveraging my actual experiences
reach men in their 30s to 50s who have real worries.

In particular,
・Dating younger women
・Workplace romance
I am reaching people through search for these kinds of worries.

That is why I will make romance-related posts my axis.

And I will continue the "realizations" and "changes in perspective"
that I have valued until now.

・Morning posts: Deliver "realizations/changes in perspective" by day of the week

・Evening posts: Strengthen romance themes (sometimes note-related topics and member introductions)

And from next time,
so that "Yorimaru" becomes easier to find,

I am also planning to change my name and review my catchphrase✨

🍀 Conclusion ~To my self from 1 month ago~

The time spent writing what I wanted to write was fun.

But now,
"To reach someone's heart and give them a little push"
I want to create posts like that.

I really realize now that with note, the future changes depending on how you convey things.

It's scary, but move reality
The answer is surely beyond that.

When in doubt, I will remember these words.

You who read this,
if you are carrying any frustration right now──

that sense of unease
might be a hint for your next step.

I hope this change becomes a hint for someone else who is worrying in the same way, and leads to a solution.

Thank you for reading until the end.
If there is anything you felt, I would be truly happy if you could give me comments or impressions💡

If you think "I understand" or "I resonated with this," it would be encouraging if you could let me know with a like or follow🍀

🍀 Notice

🟢【Deep dive into the 'axis' common to my posts】

"Romance, work, and note posts"──
Among the themes that looked scattered,
there was actually a common "certain axis."

・Things aren't going well for some reason
・There is a sense of unease somewhere

To those who feel that kind of frustration.
🔗 Click here for the article where I realized the axis

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