Living with a 'Self-First' Mindset
'#Self-First' does not mean living selfishly.
It is a way of living where you take the steering wheel of your life into your own hands while cherishing your own emotions and desires.
It is not some grand 'secret technique,' but something you can achieve with just a small shift in awareness and action.
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What kind of lifestyle is #Self-First?
'Self-First' is a lifestyle that values the following ways of thinking:
• Prioritizing your own feelings and wishes while still respecting others
• Not ignoring the inner voice that asks, 'What do I want to do?'
• Realizing that making yourself happy ultimately leads to better relationships with those around you
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Why is '#Self-First' important?
1. #Boosts self-esteem
By properly acknowledging your own feelings, you will be able to think, 'It's okay to be me.'
2. #Reduces stress
You will find yourself enduring things less and trying to conform to others less.
3. #Increases life satisfaction
When you can choose what you truly want to do, every day becomes more enjoyable.
4. #Improves relationships
When you value yourself, the distance and boundaries between you and others naturally align, allowing you to build healthy relationships.
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#Common misconceptions
• It's different from being '#Selfish'!
'Self-First' does not mean sacrificing others. It means being honest about your own needs while still valuing each other.
• 'Scared of becoming #isolated'?
When you start valuing yourself, you might feel anxious, wondering, 'Will people dislike me?' But the people who truly matter will surely support your growth.
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Tips for becoming 'Self-First' (= little tricks)
1. Be honest with your emotions
• Observe your daily emotions and try writing them down in a notebook.
• Make it a habit to ask your heart, 'What do I really want to do right now?'
2. Have the courage to say 'NO'
• You don't have to take on everything.
• Politely but clearly saying no is also an important action to protect yourself.
3. Make time just for yourself
• Hobbies, rest, or just zoning out—anything is fine.
• Consciously take time that no one can disturb to 'do things that make you happy.'
4. Re-examine your values
• What are the things you truly want to cherish?
Example: 'Family,' 'Freedom,' 'Growth,' 'Peace of mind,' etc.
• Writing them down makes it easier to make choices that are true to yourself.
5. Don't aim for perfection
• 'It's okay, whatever' is also an important magic phrase.
• It's okay to fail. First, just 'trying' will become your next source of confidence.
6. Don't compare yourself to others
• There is no need to feel rushed by the flashy posts on social media.
• If you must compare, compare yourself to your 'past self.' That is where the hints for growth lie.
7. Self-care to align your mind and body
• A balanced diet, exercise, and sleep are your foundation.
• When you are tired, prioritize 'resting' above all else.
8. Accumulate small successes
• You don't need to seek big changes all at once.
• Small steps, such as "doing just one thing I like today" or "turning down one unwanted invitation," build confidence.
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A final word
Living "#Self-First" is not about neglecting yourself to work hard,
but rather a "practice" of being kind and honest with yourself.
There is no need to rush. Taking it little by little is fine.
Please find a way of living that is comfortable and true to you.
