To Places Where People with Good Vibes Gather

The state of your autonomic nervous system is very easily contagious. When you think about it, this is natural; if someone starts shouting loudly while you are on a train, the sympathetic nervous systems of the people around them will spike, and the autonomic nervous systems of everyone there will be disrupted.

Similarly, there are people who make you feel incredibly calm for some reason when you talk to them. While compatibility and relationships are certainly important, the fact that the other person's autonomic nervous system is balanced is actually a crucial factor.

In that sense, when you have worries and cannot feel positive, it is safer not to meet with "worrywarts" or "people who think pessimistically." You will both just end up feeling increasingly gloomy.

Rather, I recommend meeting with people who are bright, positive, and optimistic. Even if the situation does not improve at all, your own feelings will become brighter and lighter, influenced by that person's vibe. This is not just some baseless talk about "just feeling that way"; the state of your autonomic nervous system is actually changing.

I use this effect, and when I feel "somehow tired" or "not really in the mood," I make it a point to go to my favorite cafe.

I often go to a place that has both a bookstore and a cafe, where visitors spend a very good time reading books or working. Of course, the place itself has power. But more than that, "the vibe of the people who gather there" is very good.

They are relaxed, but they are not just resting; there are many people who have their sympathetic nervous systems moderately elevated, exuding a "good level of work mode," and you can invite a good flow into yourself as well. A place where people with good vibes gather—this is also a kind of power spot.

A community refers to a place that provides emotional support and backing. Connections with people and supporting each other are essential for gaining emotional stability. In particular, having a specific goal together and working toward its realization strengthens a sense of solidarity. What is especially important is sharing successful experiences. By talking with companions with whom you have accomplished something in the past, it can sometimes lead to stress relief.

Also, it is said that talking to completely unrelated third parties can relieve stress. Conversations with people who are distant from you provide new perspectives and refresh you. In that sense, having a community separate from work is recommended.