I was a parent who couldn't forgive my child's failures
Back then,
I simply could not forgive my child's failures.
An error.
A strikeout.
A bad judgment call.
Every time it happened,
I would think to myself.
Why can't you do it...
Even though you practiced...
I tried not to say it out loud.
But,
A sigh.
Silence.
My expression.
In everything,
I think my dissatisfaction showed.
I used to think like this.
It is a parent's duty to prevent failure.
I will be strict to ensure they don't make the same mistake.
I thought I was doing the right thing.
But the reality was different.
My son
became increasingly cautious.
He wouldn't take on challenges.
He only made safe choices.
It had become
baseball to avoid failure.
One day, my son said.
When I make a mistake, I'm scared.
With those words,
I couldn't say anything at all.
The one who was making him scared
was me.
I have finally realized.
Mistakes are not something to be avoided,
but rather,
a 'path to walk'.
Since then, I have changed how I interact with him.
Even when he makes a mistake,
I don't say anything right away.
First,
'Nice try'
'You thought that through well'
I say things like that to him.
Honestly, I was anxious at first.
'Am I just spoiling him?'
'Will he actually grow from this?'
I wavered many times.
But, strangely enough,
my son began to change.
He stopped fearing mistakes,
and started playing with confidence.
Even when he failed,
he stopped hanging his head.
Now I understand.
Forgiving mistakes
is not the same as neglect.
It is 'believing that they can stand up again'.
That is what it was.
If you, too,
・Get frustrated when you see mistakes
・Tend to be too strict
・Regret it later
If you have had experiences like that,
you are not alone.
I was the same.
I have compiled my failures and how I recovered from them into
a single book.
📘
“That one word that day changed my son: A fresh start manual for sports parents”
✔ 7-day recovery program
✔ 50 examples of how to rephrase your words
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*Now, when you feel like you want to change, is the best time.