[Parenting] Frustrated Every Day! ~The Story of Reaching My Limit with Raising Two Children and Going to City Parenting Counseling~

"I lost my temper again."

"Am I talking to my child the right way?"

When you are raising children every day, there are days when you end up getting angry at them or saying too much.


Perhaps there are others who are worried about how they interact with their children?

I'll be more careful next time. I'll try not to get angry.
My child always manages to make me angry just when I'm thinking that.

I don't want to get angry, but I do. I hate myself and spend every day reflecting on it.


I also found myself getting angry at my older child more often after giving birth to my second, and I couldn't stop feeling self-loathing every day.


Today, I would like to write about the time I went to city parenting counseling for the first time.

I hope this will be helpful for those who are worried about how to interact with their children or those who are hesitant about going to parenting counseling.


I personally felt it was worth going because I was able to objectively understand my own situation.

● What is parenting counseling?

In my area, a clinical psychologist provides individual face-to-face counseling.


The content of the counseling includes


✔︎frustration while parenting
✔︎anxiety about parenting
✔︎not knowing how to interact with children


and other worries you may have while raising children.

● What made me decide to go

The first time I thought about going to parenting counseling was during my maternity leave with my older child.


From that time on, it was basically a daily routine of doing everything on my own.


I felt anxious about unfamiliar parenting, and I would get frustrated when housework or plans didn't go as I wanted.


At that time, I learned that the city offered parenting counseling, and I felt like"maybe I should go"a few times.


However, when I actually tried to make an appointment, I would think,




"Is there really anyone who goes?"

"Won't they think I'm a strange person?"




and I couldn't help but hesitate to go.


However, at that time, it was just me and one child, so even if I got frustrated with the child,I was able to endure it at my own pace.


But then I gave birth to my second child, and I wascompletely at my capacity limit.


Until then, I could calm my feelings by taking a deep breath or distracting myself, but when my older child hit or bit the younger one, I just


could not calm my feelings down.
Even after repeatedly warning them, they wouldn't stop and it escalated, and my angry response also escalated.

Eventually, there were days when I would


yell at my child...Every time I opened my mouth, I would get angry at my child, and I was just


frustrated every day.I felt guilty about myself, and every time I looked at my child's sleeping face, I was filled with


feelings of regret.I knew the current situation was not good, but I didn't know what to do, and I became


afraid of interacting with my older child."I can't go on like this"




"I have to change for the sake of my children"

With those thoughts, I decided to receive parenting counseling.

● After the consultation...

I had never received counseling before, and since it was my first time, I was very nervous on the day.


However, the clinical psychologist was very kind and listened to me without denying anything I said, so I was able to talk honestly about what I was worried about.


The content was


✔︎not knowing how to interact with my older child
✔︎myself being unable to suppress my frustration


about which I spoke.


What I felt after going to the consultation was thatI could get advice from a different perspective than that of public health nurses or nursery teachersthat.


Public health nurses and nursery teachers teach you aboutthe child's feelings, development, and the parent's way of interactingregarding parenting worries, based on their experience and knowledge of having seen many parents and children.


When I consulted with the clinical psychologist this time, they talked aboutmy way of looking at thingsand taught me that the current situation stems frommy own way of thinking and problems.Just as there are children with various personalities, there are also various personalities among moms and dads who raise children.


Rather than trying to solve the problem with the child at the center, I got the impression that


they were providing counseling by looking at the background of the parent's interaction.

● Conclusion

By receiving parenting consultation, I was able to objectively realize my own way of thinking and the problems at hand. I realized that


the help of a professional was necessary to resolve the current situation, and that became the impetus for me to decide to receive counseling afterward. Through counseling, I was able to


face myself, and now I am able to raise my children with a calm heart to a degree that is incomparable to before. I plan to write about the counseling I received after this at a later date. I would be happy if those who are interested would read it. I hope that reading this note helps resolve even a little bit of your worries! Thank you for reading until the end! Thank you also for the likes, follows, and comments! They are very encouraging ☺︎