Why do people get angry when told the truth?

When observing humans, there is something strange.

There are people who get angrier when they are told something correct

than when they are pointed out for being wrong.

Why is that?

For example,

"You should prepare earlier"

"That way of thinking will lead to failure"

"Exercising is better for your health"

These are all valid arguments.

They cannot be refuted.

Yet people get angry.

The reason is simple.

While humans seem to seek correctness,

what they truly seek is understanding.

Valid arguments solve problems.

However, they do not save emotions.

To someone who is tired,

"You lack motivation"

is a meaningless thing to say.

To someone who has failed,

"I told you so"

is meaningless to say.

That may be correct.

But humans are not machines.

From observation,

the person people open up to most,

is not the one who is right.

It is the one who understands them.

Therefore, in human relationships,

the truth does not always win.

In fact, the more people brandish the truth,

the more they may become isolated from those around them.

What is interesting is that,

the truly wise,

try to understand the other person before saying what is right.

The truth can be a weapon.

But eventually, people will leave the side of someone,

who only swings a weapon around.

Human Observation Record #004

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