[Quick Guide!] A Way of Living Without Blaming Yourself

🔶Introduction

Stress accumulates in our busy daily lives.
At the same time, little by little,
aren't you also accumulating
anger, sadness, anxiety, impatience, and pressure?

Without being able to vent these emotions anywhere or to anyone,
aren't you taking them out
on yourself?

When you are hurt by a boss or colleague at work,
or hurt by something a lover or friend said,
do you blame yourself, thinking,
"It's my fault that things aren't going well."

I also had this habit of thinking.
It is also an important point for emotional recovery.
If you have the
way of thinking and perspective
that I will introduce this time,

you will feel as if a sepia-toned world is becoming colorful.
This time, I will talk about 🔸 Why we blame ourselves
🔸 What kind of emotional sign it is

🔸 Small habits to stop blaming yourself.

🤔Why do we blame ourselves?

You might find it surprising, but
the act of "blaming yourself"
has a function of trying to protect your heart.

For example, when something doesn't go well,
by thinking "I am the one at fault,"

you are:
・Trying to maintain the balance of human relationships
・Avoiding conflict with someone by thinking "If I just endure it"
and blaming yourself = kindness of not blaming others

People who are prone to blaming themselves tend to be:

・Serious and have a strong sense of responsibility
・Think deeply about other people's feelings
・Have a tendency to think "I must do things properly"

They excessively take on even minor mistakes or disharmony in relationships
as "their own fault."

Also,

if you have experiences from childhood or past relationships such as:

・Being raised while being scolded
・Always having to endure
・Having a habit of reading people's faces

it is said that the thought pattern of "I am at fault"
becomes a "habit."

This is not a personality trait, but a "learned emotional reaction".
That is why, even if you think "I want to stop," you cannot break free from it immediately.
However, "noticing" is the first step to recovery.

🍀Blaming yourself = a sign that you "want to change"

Why not try looking at it this way?

"Blaming yourself" is
proof of your heart's sincerity,
that you "want to be better" and "don't want to hurt anyone."

By changing from "blaming" to "understanding,"
your heart will slowly heal in a mysterious way.

Living for your children, for your parents,
or for someone precious to you
is also a wonderful thing.

But if you don't cherish yourself,
you won't even be able to help the people you care about.

If you find yourself blaming yourself,

please think that the moment has come
to listen to the voice deep within your heart.

Small habits to stop blaming yourself!

It's okay if you can't do them all!
Just pick one to do on a day you can, at your own pace😊
By doing so, little by little,
your mindset will shift from
blaming yourself to being kind to yourself.

🔶 Conclusion

People who blame themselves are not weak; they arepeople who are too kind.
When that kindness is directed toward yourself as well,
true "emotional recovery" begins.

My daughter was also too kind and didn't want to get hurt...
so she blamed herself.
When we, as parent and child, broke out of this negative spiral,
we each began to see our own paths!

By the way, do you know how many days
have passed since you were born?
10,000 days is about 27 years old.
30,000 days is 81 years old...
40,000 days is 109 years old😲
I'll be dead by then😂

I have lived for over 15,000 days😅
In another 10,000 days, I'll be a grandma!
I will live those next 10,000 days to the fullest,
and aim to be a cool grandma😎✨
I'm going for it💪

I hope that your heart, which is feeling pain and suffering,
becomes even a little lighter🎈
and that your difficult life becomes even a little richer.
As someone living in the same era,
I hope we can walk this path together.