I received my second piece of feedback
Good evening. This is Yuko Niina, a children's book editor and counselor.
The sounds of Christmas and the end of the year are gradually drawing closer.
I edit books for children and childcare magazines, and in this industry, work moves at a frantic pace every year toward March, before the new fiscal year begins.
Children are on winter break a little earlier. And for me, it's a rush of 'play dates with friends.' Apparently, they are planning a sleepover during Christmas, so I was secretly coordinating with the friend's father, asking, 'Which house is Santa going to visit!?'
It seems various infectious diseases are going around this year, and some of my clients have been feeling unwell, but I believe that 'deciding to take a break' is also an important way to spend your time. Just by receiving counseling, you are already working hard and facing things. Please take care to listen to your body's signals.
[Q1. Your age group]
50s
[Q2. Please feel free to write your impressions of the counseling, anything that left an impression, or any changes you've noticed since.]
This was my second session, and just like the first, the pauses while we were talking were indescribably wonderful, and I liked the feeling of being able to talk with peace of mind.
When you reflected back on what I said by saying, 'So that's how it was,' I felt almost no wariness.
Also, after the counseling, you always suggest feedback and exercises, which was thorough and truly reassuring. I would like to do the exercises at my own pace.
[Q3. Who would you recommend this to?]
I recommend it to those who want someone to listen to them thoroughly.
[Q4. Please tell us why you chose Yuko Niina's counseling.]
I chose it by intuition, somehow. As a result, I feel that we were a good match.
C-san, thank you for our second conversation.
C-san, you never lost sight of the things that 'excite you,' no matter how harsh the circumstances. And even amidst the pain, you have properly realized the things you wanted to do. Now that the pain from back then is finally surfacing, there are times when you feel like you might be crushed by it, but even so, when you talk about 'I like things like this,' your consciousness shifts toward that in an instant, your cheeks flush for a moment, and you take on a fluffy, gentle atmosphere.
When you are in pain, your consciousness tends to focus on 'what is missing,' and you end up feeling increasingly miserable, wretched, and torn apart. However, if you can shift your focus even slightly toward 'things I like,' you can begin to release your feelings while feeling excited, even within the same situation.
Enjoy the 'time you can spend just for yourself' to the fullest.
What are your plans for the year-end and New Year holidays?
Some of you might feel like you don't have a partner, your children aren't coming home, or you just feel a bit lonely.
But isn't now, precisely because of that, a time when you can 'use both your time and money solely for yourself'? I feel like if you focus on the pain, you'll just sink deeper and deeper, so why not take the plunge, and in a way, just throw caution to the wind and 'spend about two weeks doing everything you love'?
One client remembered that she used to love wearing makeup. The excitement she felt when she was learning about makeup, and how she had to give it up due to her family's opposition. And she said that this year-end and New Year, she is going to 'enjoy makeup!'
Find makeup that suits you once again
Go to Korea to buy cosmetics
Go to Miyakojima instead of going home
In life, there are surprisingly few times when you can freely use your time and money just for yourself. Even if you are doing a job you love, there are deadlines, and even with a family you adore, you still consider each person's opinions and physical condition.
If there is anyone thinking, 'Oh well, I have no plans at all,' I recommend that you plan and savor a 'happy year-end and New Year just for yourself.'
By the way, all I can think of right now is, 'I want to get acupuncture from that acupuncturist all over my body! And then, I want to sleep without doing a single thing...'
What, does that sound too domestic? Is it not sparkling enough!?
It's fine, that is my blissful time in my current situation, haha.
Just planning it will shift your heart toward what excites you.
Please throw away all your guilt and everything else, and try making a 'plan for me.'
