For those who are afraid to receive money: Feelings to organize before setting a price

Is it really okay to accept money for this?

Have you ever had such hesitation arise the moment you tried to put a price on your own products or services?

Today, we will look at the true nature of that hesitation together.

Just 'setting a price' can be this painful

Even when you try to turn your strengths into a job, the final hurdle is the 'price'.

If it's too cheap, you wear yourself out. If it's too expensive, you feel intimidated, thinking, 'Who am I to charge this?' Many people end up unable to move forward because they cannot decide on a price.

It is often not a problem of technique or skill, but rather a resistance to 'receiving money' itself that is the cause.

You might be able to offer it easily for free, but the moment you attach a price, your hands stop. There are probably many people who have had that experience.

Why does 'receiving' cause feelings of guilt?

The longer you have spent putting yourself last—for the sake of family or for the sake of others—the less accustomed you are to 'receiving compensation for yourself'.

This is one form of cognitive distortion, a state where the belief that 'acting for others is good, while seeking one's own profit is bad' is strongly at work.

In fact, your time and skills have value. Even so, it is natural for your heart to struggle to keep up with what your head already knows.

Furthermore, the more you grew up in an atmosphere where 'talking about money is vulgar,' the more nervous you will feel about mentioning a price. This is not a personal weakness, but an influence of the environment in which you were raised.

Price is not 'your value' itself

What is important here is to think of price and your own value as separate things.

Price is not a measure of your value as a human being. It is merely a number exchanged in society as compensation for the changes the other party receives or for the time spent.

Lowering the price does not lower your value. Conversely, setting it high does not make you arrogant.

Please try to think of your existence and the price of your product as separate issues for a moment. The price is not you yourself, but something attached to the 'time' or 'change' you provide.

It is okay to start small while still feeling 'afraid'

If you wait until the fear is gone to start, you will never be able to start.

Instead of waiting until everything is perfect to release it, try starting small and shaping it first. There is a way to refine things as you go by observing actual reactions.

It is okay not to decide on the perfect price from the start. First, set a tentative price and have one person try it. You can gradually refine it while watching their reaction.

• Try setting a tentative amount that you can feel comfortable with right now

• Have just one person try it at that price

• Review and adjust it little by little based on the feedback you receive

A price is not something that cannot be changed once decided. Thinking of it as something you nurture and refine as you go might help you relax a little.

Instead of waiting for the fear to disappear before acting, try taking a small step while the fear is still there. That is also a perfectly valid first step.

Receiving is about respecting the other person's will

Another thing to keep in mind is the perspective that receiving payment is also respecting the other person's desire to pay.

The other person is offering payment because they value your time and skills. Hesitating and refusing to accept it could potentially mean taking their choice lightly.

When you think of it that way, perhaps the guilt you feel about receiving might soften just a little.

Thank you for reading until the end. I hope this article serves as a catalyst for you to consider taking a small step.
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