🌙DAY 9 "Getting tired of people isn't about your personality"

When you're with people, you feel tired somehow.
You're too considerate.
After you get home, you feel completely drained.

This, you see,
doesn't mean you're weak, nor does it mean you lack communication skills.

It's almost certainly this:

"Back then, you just couldn't survive unless you did that."

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■ The habit of accommodating others was a survival strategy

When you were a child,
you couldn't choose your environment.

Parents
Teachers
Siblings
Classmates
The atmosphere at home

Within that,

・It's safer to read the room
・You won't get scolded if you're a good kid
・The situation won't get messy if you endure it

The more you learned that,
the more you continue to accommodate others even as an adult.
I've been doing it for a long time, too.

This,
is neither kindness nor a character flaw.

It was simply the "optimal solution at the time."

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■ But you don't have to follow the same rules anymore

The problem is,
you're still using those rules unconsciously.

You're an adult now,
you have choices now,
and you have the freedom to walk away now,

yet you haven't let go of the steering wheel
that your past self was holding.

That's why it's so exhausting.

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■ From the moment you realize it, you will change little by little

Just remember this today.

When you get tired of people, try saying this:

"Oh, this is my old way of doing things."

That's all you need.

You don't have to try to change it.
You don't have to try to fix it.

When you notice it,
the reflex (unconscious reaction) stops.

When the reflex stops,
you become able to choose.

That is your own axis.

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■ One last thing

You are
not someone who accommodates others too much.

You are someone who has lived desperately
to avoid breaking relationships with others.

It's okay for that role to end now.

Tomorrow,
we will dive into
"the reason why you lost touch with your true feelings."

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